One of the biggest lessons behind the latest push for mental health awareness is that just because someone smiles nd looks like they have it all under control doesn’t mean there isn’t a time bomb ticking beneath the surface. It’s one of the most under appreciated illnesses in the world, much less the United States.

Someone who has depression issues or anxiety issues or struggles with bipolar disorder isn’t always taken as seriously as the illnesses nd disorders we can see. That’s the danger in all of this. If u don’t take the time to check on those u care about nd pay attention to things u see that may be out of the ordinary for that person u may be losing a friend nd never know it.

No one person has all the same reactions nd behaviors. The struggle with these issues are well documented nd they have only been magnified with the high profile suicides lately who were struggling with some of these issues. The difficulty is that these issues are deeply personal nd getting someone to open up who’s struggling is hard because there is a feeling of helplessness nd worthlessness.

The challenge is getting the person to accept that they have an issue that needs to be addressed. That’s something that takes support, love but also someone who has or is going thru it that can get on ur level nd let u know it’s ok to admit u need help nd that ur not mentally well.

There is a darkness that comes over anyone who struggled or struggles with these issues nd u can’t just assume u can handle it on ur own. Seek help, find positive outlets nd influences, learn to love urself nd day by day u can lift the darkness within.

If you need to talk then lets discuss

As I sat this today trying to determine how to pin this I realized that simple nd factual will be the orders of the day. I looked up the definition of a father. And at its core it too is simple nd basic. A father means a male who created a child. I then looked up dad and that word means a father who is active present nd raises his child or children.

Today we celebrate Fathers Day. At its most basic principle we celebrate men who created children. But in reality what we are really celebrating are Dad’s. Today is really Happy Dad’s Day. And if you are fortunate enough to have that kinda figure in your life then you pay some type of tribute to him.

A dad is what many of us seek nd hope we have in the man who helped to create us. We look for that man yo guide nd lead us, mold us into young men nd then into being a grown man. We look to him to protect us and be firm yet loving during our growth in life. He is the man some want to be like.

The truth is many in the Black community nd specifically the Gay community don’t have biological dad’s. We have biological father’s nd then dad figures along the way. Be it a grandfather or a gay father or a mentor or coach or brother or cousin. Someone who treated us like a son irrespective to what sex we chose to lay with in life.

The sad truth is that for many in the community today is not necessarily a fond day like Mothers day. It’s a time where we usually have those lingering questions pop in nd out of our brains. It’s where we recommit to being a better dad than ours, if we have children, nd it’s a time where we reflect nd give thanks to whatever figure we have to call dad in our lives.

For anyone who has a real dad that they call father today honor them. Love on them, tell them you appreciate them. Make them know that they are as loved as they love u nd u are as grateful for them as they are for having the chance to raise u.

For one thing is certain the legacy of your dad, father, lives they whomever they imparted their life of devotion to. Because you become their image.

God bless every man that’s a father who is a dad. Happy Dad’s Day to you all.

So many times people think that the world is against them because they’re going through some struggles. Because times are hard. When the reality is that the Ethos is designed to work in your favor but you can tilt nd alter that with your words, actions nd energy. When someone puts something negative in the air about its up to u whether or not u give it the energy to breathe. When you allow negativity to get energy then your path can change.

As I have said and will continue to say you will not be able to fully understand yourself nor the plan that is destined for you if you don’t allow urself to connect to the Earth nd let it guide u. Contrary to pessimistic belief you definitely are designed to have the Ethos in your favor.

If you take time to learn about yourself you learn that you are a compilation of the energy in the world. Affected differently by the arrangements of the stars, moons, and planets. We as a people need to learn more about ourselves. You get to have more knowledge nd love for urself. One is never perfect.

I truly think that at some point in time completion is achieved with a connection through the Earth. Think about nd tell me bout it

Thank u Outkast for the opening for this blog. Lol, this title to me is very important to delve into. So many people are out here living like they the best thing since electricity. They get so caught up n looking pretty or handsome nd forget that part of sex appeal is how u act.

Aint nothing worse than meeting someone who looks good but they personality be shit nd they have the nerve to act like they shit dont stank. Being attractive don’t give u a pass to be a bitch, dick, or asshole. Yes it usually mean you have more attention nd followers. People spend more time starring nd gawking at you. But does that mean you give people your ass to kiss? Does that mean u have to carry urself as though ur beyond reproach?

Even if u not cute nd u full of confidemce, thats beautiful that u are self confident nd loving of urself but that dont mean u gotta be extra nd aggy with your self praise. Roses have thorns nd they still smell like shit at the end of the day lol. Beautiful to look at but all that great to the smell.

I think we all could use a lil humility drink just to remind us all that there is a balance to life. Be confident in u. Feel great u nd ur accomplishments. Take time to appreciate urself. Just dont be a bitch about it.

Remember, I know u like to think yo shit dont stank but lean a little closer cuz roses really smell like boowoowoowoowoo. Lmao

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There is no greater experience in my mind than becoming a parent for the first time. To kno you have created a being that will be in your likeness. That will have your blood in its bubb veins. To see the first smile, hear the first cry, witness the first steps, hear the first words and the list goes on.

These are some of the early joys of watching a life u helped create learn the new world they exist within. To hear their little heart beat. To see the innocence in them. To hear the first time they say I love you daddy. What a special gift. To have a son for any man gay or straight is a prideful thing. To know your heir is here.

Now imagine being told you’re going to be a father and then four months later that gift is taken away. Then imagine being told the real reason why your son isn’t here.. Because the person carrying your child killed him. No notice given to you and the only explanation is its my body nd I do what I want.

Just because the relationship ends doesn’t mean I wouldn’t be an involved nd constantly present dad. Having a child is a want of mines. So to have been so close only to have it snatched away in devastating fashion has fucked with me since finding out nearly two weeks ago.

The pain is unexplainable. The hurt is paralyzing and the thoughts are debilitating. I never wanted to kno this feeling. To be on the doorstep of fatherhood only to have spite and jealousy take that away. It hurts so bad every day. It’s just one more thing that makes u question yourself. It puts u in a constant state of hurt yet the show must go on

So to you my unborn son, Jeremiah Solomon Reynolds. I wish u peace as u never got to take a breath on this Earth. Daddy loved u beyond any measure u will kno. The tears that fall don’t console my heart. My love for u is always there.

This is my tribute to u.

Drop a line nd lets talk about it