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Why The Public Shouldn’t Be Shocked

You know as I’ve started to catch wind of the events that happened at the University of Louisville with the basketball program, I can’t help but to laugh at how many in the media world seem to be shocked and still a bit outraged that this activity is going on. But my mind has to say are you serious? Like have we not heard for decades about how these institutions do this for their recruits and players alike. There have been parties like this for as long as there has been recruiting in collegiate athletics.

Football players, basketball players and their family and friends have been treated to red carpet, all out love affairs because those sports are the major revenue drivers for most of these Colleges and Universities. You see what you have now is just that technology has made it such that all of these “secret” parties are now recorded and become public knowledge. So I guess you can say that is one of the drawbacks of having instant communication with the click of a button at your disposal.

I am amazed though, to see how many in the “Journalism” world seem to think that this “scandal” is somehow going to sink Rick Pitino at Louisville. If academic scandals and lack of institutional control sentences haven’t killed other big time college coaches at marquee programs, this surely will not doom Pitino. I think that there is such a knee jerk reaction because you hear the words “paid” escorts and those things that suggest impermissible benefits were extended to these recruits and student athletes while enrolled or visiting Louisville.

And then most say how could the coach not know that these parties were taking place. I would say it’s very easy. If he’s concerned with how he’s going to coach his team to a title and who the next big recruit they need to target is, making sure that all of his players and assistants are doing the right things at all times can be forgotten. The duty can be delegated to another coach on the staff and should be done. But, I’m not naïve enough to think that Rick didn’t have any idea at all. He’s the head man so I’m sure he knew something, now just how much remains to be seen.

And before I wrap this post, I would be remiss if I didn’t say why the hell is it every time a scandal breaks the person or persons who have the info get broadcast all over the television like they’re just the heroes or saints. When damnit if it wasn’t for them being complicit in the whole damn thing maybe we never know about this shit. Stop glorifying the person who keeps everything and then squeals. I’m sick of it.

What are your thoughts?

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Just My Take

I wanted to take a few minutes to give my thoughts about the recent events surrounding Ray Rice and his wife. I have previously spent time writing about my feelings on domestic abuse and how destructive and detrimental it is to relationships and communities as a whole. As I’ve listened to the conversations, had my fair share, and thought about it all, I will say that my view is slightly controversial but very well thought out. 

First and foremost let me say that I do not in any way condone what Ray did. I have seen the video and it’s very disheartening to see that he could not exercise better restraint and discretion to walk away from the situation instead of striking his now wife. That being said, it is my belief that this is not their first time having a physical alternation and I also think that without having full knowledge of everything that happened we don’t know if she baited and provoked him in any way to lose his temper.

While I am all for a man being raised to not put his hands on a woman, I am also all in favor of women being taught to not put their hands on a man, and more importantly to not provoke and bait the man. There is reason to believe that both of them are to be blamed for the situation because the honest truth is, more often than not, women are not raised to truly respect their partner the same way a man is.

See if you’re a man, you’ve heard it from your mom, father (father figure), friends, and family alike, that you do not hit a woman. But is that same emphasis put on women to understand that putting your hands on a man, or provoking a situation is just as wrong. I would submit that we don’t see that. If you need proof look at so many of our young teenagers and kids today. So much more you’re seeing girls bullying boys, primarily because that little boy has had it drilled never to touch a woman.

Well let me say that I do not and will not agree with the premise that just because you’re a man you don’t hit a woman. I firmly believe that if a woman wants to act like she’s bad enough to hit a man or get in his face and act as though she wants to fight, then she needs to be ready to shoot the five and accept responsibility for the consequences. See nobody was screaming domestic abuse when Solange was beating on Jay Z in the elevator. In fact it was laughed at and made fun of. 

The rumor mill was swirling about if there were issues within his marriage and Beyonce`’s sister was standing up for her. The double standard is ridiculous and I’m sick of it quite frankly. The only difference is Jay Z knew if he did anything remotely physical to her, it was going to be all holy hell. If you want to start to curb this epidemic of domestic abuse, it will start with holding everyone accountable. It will continue with making sure real and consistent counseling is available to both parties. It will have to include raising up boys and girls to men and women who understand that putting your hands on someone else in a physically violent, abuse way is wrong. Whether you’re a MAN or a WOMAN it is WRONG.

#Just my take