Is flirting considered cheating? I’ve had about as many arguments as I’ve had civil conversations about whether or not flirting constitutes cheating. This is one subject where I’m a little bit conflicted, because being a gay man, I’ve harmlessly flirted with women for years. I mean I will be extremely transparent and say that I don’t get turned on at all by a woman so flirting with them for me is just for fun. Where I have a little more of an issue however, is when it comes to flirting with another man. 

Yes gay men know how to flirt so smooth and easy, but also can be very blunt, overt and somewhat messy at times, depending on who’s doing the flirting. I have a very genuine respect for the person who says that they don’t like any kind of flirting by their significant other because they don’t like it and feel that it opens the door to all sorts of opportunities by someone else seeking that time and attention. I also respect the person who says that they are comfortable with themselves and their lover and if it’s just a little harmless flirting they don’t really care.

But I think that does beg the question: How much is too much? And this is where the whole divide begins and seems to take on a life of its own. Is it a sign of insecurity if you get caught in your feelings because someone flirts with ya boo, or if they flirt a little with someone else? Is it a sign that you or the other person aren’t really happy at home or are you just acting on your natural instinct to be engaging, personable and flirtatious? The confident man in me says that if there is a little flirting done by my dude or person I’m dating, I don’t become offended unless i feel like it crosses that threshold and becomes more intense and intimate. At no point should phone numbers or kik handles or twitter handles or Facebook handles be exchanged, because that is when I think it will carry too far and become something more than just a little flirting.

While I can honestly say that I have flirted and been flirted with while I’ve been in relationships, I have always made it clear that home is a happy place and nobody can change that unless I want them too. And to that end, I have usually held my poise when I see someone flirting with my dude, because I actually see it as a badge of honor that somebody else is tryna to get what got.. especially when they try to do it in my presence and my dude thanks them but politely says he’s not single. Being on both ends of watching it happen and having it happen I can say that as long as that trust there between the two people I think a little flirting keeps things healthy and fun.

#You look nice.. Do you flirt?