The measure of man is not in his clothes, his masculinity, his skin tone or his possessions. The real measure of a man is in his character. For just because you have a lot of things, or you dress a certain way, or you have a particular personality it doesn’t mean shit in the real classification of being a man. I think we have gotten so trained and convinced that in order to be a real man you must have the freshest clothes all the time, and you must have the finest cars, homes, and be wealthy, and you have you to be overly tough and you must act like the stereotype of your skin tone.

In truth, a man a really that guy who takes care of home; he has no problem paying all of his bills, takes the time to learn himself and establish some kind of legacy for himself. Whether he be gay or straight, he has a presence when he walks in a room. It can be the man who is quiet, yet impactful, or it can be the extrovert who knows how to command the room. A man is one who if he has kids, takes the responsibility of raising that child or children. Instilling the lessons of manhood and allowing that child to feel cared for and protected. It is the man who shows his daughter the qualities she ought to look for instead of showing her who not to go after. It is a man who teaches his son how to act, how to treat people, and respect men and women alike. 

It does not matter whether your dick is going in a woman or inside of another man, the measure of you as a man is not determined by that. It don’t matter if you’re a light skin pretty boy or a chocolate blue collar worker, the measure of who you are is not determined by that. So take a little time to consider the what qualifications you use to determine what a man is.. Because for me masc, fem, tall, short, dark, light, rich, middle class none of things can really measure the trueness of being called a man..