The Greatness of Serena

For as long as she has been a professional tennis player I’ve been following the career of Serena Williams. From the innocent, rough, young lady from California; to the dominant, amazing Superstar that she is today. And I can only imagine did she think that she would this great and spectacular.

If she never wins another major championship, Serena will still go down as one of the greatest Tennis players in the history of the game. And if that accolade is not enough, she’s doing so with her big sister alongside. Venus has been atop the mountain in Women’s tennis just like her sister. And while she hasn’t been as dominating, she is still a multi time singles champion.

Despite all the personal drama that Serena has dealt with, she still has managed to be the dominant force in women’s tennis for more than a decade. She is going for her second “Serena” slam and is trying to win the Calendar slam for the first time in her career. What must that pressure and expectation be like?

Watching her yesterday play against a crowd favorite and native Brit, you saw just why Serena is the best in the game. How many others do you know can play against an overwhelming crowd favorite, lose track of their game for a set and then finally find a way to win such a difficult match. She may not have the typical personality and demeanor that most in the tennis world would like, but she damn sure has the game.

For all her shy and reclusive demeanor off the court, on the court she is as confident, cocky and brash as they come. Oh, and before anybody tries to act like she shouldn’t do that or needs to do that, remember that all of the All-time greats have that element. It’s what sets them apart from all of the rest. It is what allows her to get down and not look like she can win, only to find herself and find that way to win again.

If you are a Tennis fan, just take the time to appreciate the fact that we are watching one of the greats of all-time in an era that has seen three come along. Roger Federer, Rafael Nadal and Serena Williams. I’ll leave you to think about that.

Loss of Opportunity..

You know I have always been a supporter of The View. Yes I know it’s a bunch of middle aged women talking about current events, but listen they have very lively and engaging debate. They have cohosts with varying views and it always provides a chance to hear opposing views on the days or weeks hot topics.

Well, following last weeks historical decisions I fully expected the ladies of The View to have robust discussions about these life changing decisions. But to my surprise there was not one word uttered about these decisions in the two shows that followed the landmark cases. And that is the  most shocking thing that I’ve seen on this show.

For a show that can have Donald Trump and open discussions about the race card being used during President Obama’s presidency. From talking about all the shootings and massacres, to all of the topics in between. This show has been known to not have the same Conservative boundaries as some of their counterparts. And maybe that has changed.

Barbara Walters is still an Executive Producer of this show she created and I find it hard to imagine that she would not want the ladies to talk about Healthcare and Gay Marriage. For Whoopi and Raven to not even mention it, well that’s really shocking to me.

I guess there comes a time in everything where you are disappointed in something you thought was solid. Now, I have mines in the View. I know some may think its trivial, but when you think about how many controversial topics they’ve discussed, to miss the opportunity to deeply discuss two of the most hot button issues of our time, they took a giant pass. I guess I just want to know why.

Symbolism.. Why it’s so important

So I’ve been listening and watching about the events in Charleston, South Carolina. I had to sit back and think about all the horrific sights and the devastated hearts that followed as a result. You know now that those souls are laid to rest and the conversation is as strong as ever about race relations and the Confederate Flag, I think its time for a little more perspective.

I’ve been watching as social media has been running the constant comparisons of the decision the Supreme Court handed down on gay marriage and the inequality that still exists for Black people and White people. And make no mistake about it, there is still so much to be done but these moments need to stay separated and I will address it more in my next post. For now lets just focus on the symbolic nature of this killing and actions of the families following.

As anybody who has talked to me knows, I’m not very effusive in my praise for the Black Church, because for all it has stood for throughout history and continues to stand for today, there are so many outdated and ancient practices in the church that has kept it from continuing to be the rallying point that it once was. Not to mention the drama and histrionics of those wanting to have “stature” and “power” in the Church community. The Church has been torn apart by greed and money and it’s a shame.

But, lets still remember that the Black Church, for as long as they’ve existed in this country, has stood as a symbol of power and togetherness for the community. It was the place that launched the career of Dr. King, the church is the place Malcolm X became such a demonstrative figure. The church is where refuge was sought during slavery and slaves quest for freedom.

The Church was the place that we went to in order to recharge and hear a word to uplift you in times of struggle. The Church was the place that groomed young men and women for the world. It was the place that when the rest of the world told you that you weren’t good enough, it told you that you were. When the world told you that your pigmented skin was ugly and not humane, the Church said it was beautiful, unique and amazing.

See that radical, racist, prejudiced White man, went to the symbolic place to try and incite another Civil War. For all the bull shit that his people trying to “defend” him put out about him being mentally unstable, the reality is this man was very sane, stable and rational. He knew that if he went to that historic church and executed those people it would cause outrage and he hoped that it would lead to war and to further expose Black people, in his mind and the minds of others, to be out of control, angry, violent people; not worthy of being considered equal.

He said as much on his social media rants. He wanted to go to a place that symbolized the strength of the African American community and cause emotional and physical scars that would paralyze a community with fear and hatred, leading to violence and slaughtering of countless men, women and children of color. See for all the rush by some in White America to paint him as unstable and mentally challenged, it is the opposite in fact that’s true about him. He knew where to strike  Black America, he just didn’t expect the reaction he received.

I must applaud that Church and the parishioners and family members of those in that church for their reaction to this tragedy. Another racially charged terroristic act. Yes, I will call it that because that’s just what it is. See we have to realize that while we damage our own cause by stupidly killing each other, we also give rise to those who truly hate us to kill us and use the veil of Black on Black killing as justified comparisons for what they do.

Symbolism folks is just as strong, if not stronger at times, than the act itself. Because it’s the symbolic images and emotions that people illicit from these tragedies that spur actions. Now all across the deep South, politicians are rushing to remove the Confederate Flag because they feel convicted by this latest massacre. But maybe what really got them is they realized the negative, destructive, and contentious symbol that the Flag represents and finally they say no more.

Keep this debate up, equality comes from courage, conversation and numbers. Power is in the masses ability to come together.

A Eulogy for the Ages

Throughout the six years the President Obama has been in office, I have been able to listen to him give some of the most riveting and emotional speeches I’ve ever heard. Make no mistake about it that this man is one of the great orators of our time. Among American Presidents is ranks right at the top of the list. His ability to touch that emotional fabric of your heart and remind you that above being President, he is a Man, a Father, a Brother, another American citizen.

On Friday, lost in the jubilation of the historic decision of the Supreme Court, was a eulogy delivered by the President for one of victims of the shooting in Charleston, SC. I must tell you that if you haven’t had the opportunity to listen to this passionate, emotional speech, then you have missed another dynamic, impactful speech delivered by this president.

Once again faced with addressing the masses after another national tragedy, President Obama did what only he could do. He reached back and got in touch with his roots. Speaking candidly, emotionally and honestly about the struggles of being Black in America. He reached back into history to help Americans understand that while this act does not in any way represent the entire White community, it does remind us that there are those factions that do not care for African Americans. He reminded us that race has been and will always be the elephant in the room. It is the contentious conversation that can break families up.

President Obama spoke passionately about the need for American hiring practices to embody the American spirit, that just because your name is Jamal and you are of color doesn’t mean you are less qualified than Johnny who is pale skinned and lacks pigment. He reminded us that the reason we didn’t see mass rage and aggression is because this person attacked what has been know as the bedrock of peaceful assembly for most Black people..the church.

While the Black church is far from perfect, it is and will forever be the rallying point for so many in the African American community. It is the place that many grew up in and learned how to become better adults. It was the place that fostered hope and opportunity for young people needing to feel loved and accepted.

The Presidents eulogy reminded us why for so long the Black Church has stood for power in the Black Community. But to me he also reminded us of what we need to do. Get back to the point of uplifting young children and continuing to promote love and acceptance, over hate and disdain. The President showed us that he is just as Black as the person riding the bus to work every day. He showed that he knows the historical context of the song Amazing Grace.

He showed us that he is just a regular guy just like us, who happens to hold the most powerful office in the free world. President Obama reminded us of where we still need to get to, be he also helped us remember that love, peace and the unrelenting Grace of God, that none of us deserve, we can become a better people. That eulogy was one of his greatest speeches because it embodied a people and a culture. It showed that above all he is the nations first Black President and one you can oh so proud of. Black Americans, support this man because he damn sure supports us,

This Needs To Stop

So listen I know that my last blog focused on the guzzling of LeBron James’ dick..well this post is not quite in that arena but it will be about the insane praise being heaped at his feet as we close in on the end of the NBA Finals.

If anyone else has not noticed LeBron James is getting more publicity and push to be the Finals MVP this year than the league MVP is getting his push for Finals MVP. I mean lets be clear here, I will never knock the talent that he has nor the NBA player that he is. But I really want all these ass kissing media types to please stop this incessant hugging of LeBron’s nuts.

I mean come on, all I’ve heard the past two days since his team lost game 5, despite all of his efforts and the media’s consistent force feeding that he is God of all basketball players, the fact remains that LeBron and company are 48 minutes away from losing a Championship.

Let me be clear, Yes LeBron has done all that he can and has balled his ass off, but let me also be clear, LeBron is not a basketball God and I’m sorry, I don’t believe he is that good. I think he is a benefactor of the league crowning him the Golden Boy and in my view having the politics always favor Mr. James.

I have never seen a superstar bitch more on the road when he doesn’t get a foul call. And my goodness if I ever see a player get more home fouls called I’ll throw up. If you want to know why I have such a disdain for the basketball player LeBron is, it’s because he came into the league being given clout that true superstars earned.

See to me and in my view if you want to know what a superstar is, look at Stef Curry, look at Kevin Durant, Kobe, Tim Duncan. They all had to earn their stripes, they weren’t given anything, unlike LeBron. So excuse me if I’m tired of hearing all this bull shit about How Mythical and Godly LeBron is and how he is the only player on the planet who could will his team to a win in Game 6 at home with all the calls to go your way.

Sorry, but if you wanna be honest, LeBron has been overrated since he came into the league. Yes he got his team to a finals before he bolted to join the Super Team in South Beach, and I will give credit where it is due, he came back home and guided his squad to the verge of a chip, despite all the injuries. But my question that I have is..where would this team be if they actually called games as they should regardless on if there was “God” James on this team…??

Guzzlin’ LeBron’s Dick…

So I will be the first one to say that I’m not a big LBJ fan at all. I feel like he’s been propped up and glorified since he stepped foot in the NBA. Yes, I will give some credit where it’s due, he is one hell of a basketball player. There are not many players who can guard positions 1-4 on the floor. But that is also where I have to cut it off.

See I’m not really a guy who has ever believed in conspiracy theories or any of that, but, as it relates to LeBron I must say that I’m really sick and tired of the bullshit that goes his way. To be 6’8 and 260 pounds of solid muscle, he is one of the biggest bitches in the league. I get so sick of watching games and seeing that scrunched up face he makes, when he feels he should get a call and doesn’t. I’m also sick of watching him flop because he does the shit way too much.

Not to mention, he has the media and the officials seemingly in his ass pocket. The commentators never seem to want to admit that he has never been able to lead a built around him to the title. Yes he’s made six finals appearances, and five in a row. I will admit that’s very impressive, but lets also be honest, he made four of those trips with Dewayne Wade’s team and a super trio of players.

When the comparisons are made to the greatest ever, Michael Jordan, I have to laugh in anyone’s face who does that. What the fuck do you see that lets you make that decision? If you take today’s game and apply Jordan in it, he would fuckin these dudes up left and right. Back when Mike was the dominant man in the game he was playing in a league where the Pistons were close-lining his ass to make sure he didn’t get to the basket.

If you let someone touch LeBron too hard it’s a whistle and it sucks. So yes let me be clear I despise Kobe Bryant more than any other player, except LeBron, but I give the Black Mamba all the credit in the world. He stayed in L.A. all these years and had teams built him and his talents and won Championships. Yes he had his fair share of whining ass moments too, but the reality is he is one of the games greatest, and I respect him for it.

So here’s my thing..Maybe if the people calling games and officiating them would get out LeBrons ass and realize that while he may be one of the most talented players in the league, I don’t think he’s the best player in the league. Lets make the shit more even; I’m tired of seeing him getting drooled on by EVERYBODY.

#I’m done

Just to Say Thank you

This will be one of my more brief, but I think powerful blogs.. Today we pause to recognize and pay homage to all those who fought and died for the freedoms we so richly enjoy. The military men and women who serve with honor and dignity, we cannot ever repay you for the debt we owe to you. Even saying Thank you is not enough, I hope anyone who is a veteran or knows a veteran that reads this blog knows how thankful I am for your service or the service of your loved one.

I have the pleasure and honor of knowing some current and former servicemen and women that I just have to say thank you for giving your time and service for protecting me and my freedoms. See as much as we like to enjoy the day off and cookout with friends and family, we do need to realize that this day is for our Military. Those folks are a constant watchdog and protector, they live to serve and some die during that service.

It is the ultimate act of unselfishness and compassion. It is the definition of a Hero and patriot. See whether you know it or not, the athletes we glorify aren’t the real superheros, that distinction belongs those who wear the uniform and defend this great nation. From one man to whoever reads this.. THANK YOU for sacrificing your life every day, just so I can be free to live mines… #USA #proudAmerican

The Uninspiring Election…

I know that it’s still very early in the run-up to next years Presidential Election, but as currently constructed, this is one of the most uninspiring and lackluster buildups I’ve seen in quite a while. Yes we have the potential to set more history as we could possibly elect the first ever woman President in our country’s history. But I just feel like this race right now is lacking intrigue, and originality.

We are potentially facing a general election of a repeat of 20 years ago, when Clinton v Bush first happened. Yes the names are different because it’s Jeb and Hillary, but they are in essence extensions of their Father and Husband. what makes Jeb so interesting is that his previous job was that of a Chief Executive, of Florida, and that his brother is the former 43rd President of the United States. So he’s having to defend not only his political record, but also that of his incompetent and inept brother. The questions still lingering about the decision to invade Iraq and the questionable decisions his brother made.

For Hillary, her quest is too unique, a little but not so much. See this story with her we have actually seen play out already. Let us not forget that we was running to make this same piece of history, when she was derailed by a younger, more enthusiastic, and equally as history seeking candidacy in Barack Obama. She was billed as the inevitable candidate who could not lose because of her “Clinton Machine” and what happened was the upset of upsets. A candidate who had fresh ideas and a willingness to stand on his laurels went toe to toe with the mighty machine and frankly he destroyed it.

So I have to ask what’s different now about Hillary than 6 years ago. Why should we believe that this campaign will be any different than the last one. She’s still going around as if she is untouchable. Deciding not fully answer questions about her truly baffling decision to not follow government rules in regards to email accounts and her subsequent deleting of thousands of emails.

She still to me doesn’t have the feel of a candidate trying to really connect with the people, even if she could a good got damn about any of us. She still needs to sell it far more to me than what she is. And that to me, mixed with her elitist attitude, could be the thing that keeps this country from what it really does need… A second 8 year run of a Democrat in the White House. See, Barack did all that he could in the climate he was forced to operate in. Now we need another Democrat to step in and run with the ball to make sure this country continues to give the regular folks an opportunity.

And yes, I am a bleeding heart, full on liberal, who has supported Democrats for as long as I’ve been able to vote..which is only like three Presidential cycles..lol..but even in the midterms I vote with the party. So I say this with much thought and construction, the Democratic field needs more challengers, and not just ceremonial ones to give Hillary a warm-up in the primary debates. She needs real competition to make sure that we are sending our best candidate into the fight.

The Republicans, while their candidates are crazy and all over the place, have some charisma on their side and also some new blood. Now don’t make any mistake, they have a lot of the usual Right Wing idiots too.. and that is why I say that at this point, we be on pace for one of the lower voter turnouts in election history. The Obama coalition built for his elections were robust and called on young people and people of color to get out and vote; the Hillary coalition, while still being determined, seems to be built upon women, and the business core. While they are a very strong group.. will it be able to get her the votes she needs?

Right now I’m uninspired and really disinterested.. Hopefully primary season will change that.

The Capitalism of the Black Church

Now before I get started with the blog let me be the first to say that I love my church. I have been a faithful member for almost five years. I would also say that this church for me is unlike any other church I’ve ever attended. It operates on the same principles as other churches, which is a must for survival and to do the work of ministry, but it doesn’t pray on its members.

Now that I got that out the way.  This blog, if read by any black religious folks or hell any religious person in general, will not appease you. See I’m applying this to the Black Church because it’s the one that I know but I’m sure this could apply to many different denominations and sects of churches.

I personally believe that part of the reason that so many people today, and especially in America, are disassociating themselves from the church is because they are heavy handed and way to built around Capitalism, instead of Servitism. And yes, I did just create that word. Let me explain: Servitism is what the church was supposed to be based upon. Serving the community, its members, visitors and those who were less fortunate. It was meant to serve as a conduit between God and his teachings. See it was meant to be that bridge to understanding.

But because of the Government back during President 43, the Black Church has become nothing short of a cash cow. And I would go so far as to say to trace it further back than that. When the White Capitalists ventured down to Africa to rape the land and become the benefactors of its riches, they handed the Africans a bible and church, while they took the land and their self dignity.

What bothers me so much about today’s Secular culture is that we see so many damn churches all over the place and yet, we as a people and a nation are more fucked up, socially isolated and broken than ever before. When I try to figure out why, I look no further than those churches. In fact, lets just look at one type of church.. The Mega Church.

See this type of church is the epitome of a Capitalistic Church. All of the pastors of these churches, except one, preach a message of exclusion and demon spirits. They like to tell you that the only way to measure your success is to be rich and have lots of prosperity. They never tell you that you need to sufficiently address your personal deficiencies. They don’t like to tell you that if you love the same sex you are equal. They don’t like tell you to budget, they like to tell you to give your all to the church. Even to the point of being broke, because that’s when God will bless you.

And to me that sounds stupid. Why would God want you to not be able to sustain yourself, to prop up an institution that is thriving and booming with money and resources. Instead, shouldn’t that institution be giving back to its parishioners who have given to build their cause?

Yes there are things that these churches do in the community, but is it really enough? Are they really addressing enough people and solving enough of the problems? Maybe if the Church stop trying to pad its coffers and spent more time making sure the neighborhood and environment within which they occupy has the resources, both monetary and nonmonetary, to grow and develop into truly productive and supportive places. Maybe then we wouldn’t have so many senseless killings, so much White on Black police crime, so many domestic abuse cases, and so much rampant and needless homelessness.

Come on Black Church, ease up your reins and change your Capitalistic model, you have a community that needs you.

The Conformity of the Black Gay Male

I have been struggling with this concept for quite some time and over the past few weeks I’ve had the opportunity to sit back and think about how to compose this blog. What I have realized is that as much as we, Black Gay Men, love to swear up and down that we are who we are and that we shouldn’t be forced to conform to the norms of society, it’s ironically just what we’ve done. And I know this will step on a few toes but, as anybody who knows me knows, I don’t give a damn.

See we have spent so many years fighting for our equality and our rights to exist independently and separate from the Heterosexual worlds definitions of who we should be, but as we continue to reach those goals, I’m starting to see so much more that we are conforming to just that very ideology we are striving to break free from. .

We love to boast that we don’t want to be defined as masculine or feminine or any of those titles, but as soon as you get on any of the social dating apps, the first thing you get on profiles is they only want…fill in the blank. So immediately my mind starts to wonder, are we just so fuckin’ trained to the “normal” standards that we just can’t break the chains of stereotyping? See here is what I know about that dynamic. I’ve seen more “feminine” men come into their own form of “dominant” roles and become some of the best tops you will ever know.

And conversely, I’ve seen a damn army of supposed “masculine” men become top flight bottoms as well. So I think my point here is instead of worrying about how masculine or feminine someone is, why not be concerned with do they give you what you want. See it appears that middle person has become the lost love and if you blend the lines of masculinity and femininity at all, you are vilified as not being enough of one or the other. And I think that’s very damaging.

Why is it that everyone loves to live at these extreme ends of the pole? Why is it that you have to be all one way or the other? I thought the definition of being gay is that you are a man who likes men. And yes your preference is just that, but correct me if I’m wrong.. If you are fucking an ass or taking some dick, you are exhibiting some sort of feminism no? I mean think about it this way. A straight person is fucking the opposite sex. If you are fucking the same sex why do you have to put yourself in a defined role?

I think what I have enjoyed most about those men who are versatile like myself is that we blend the lines of masculinity and femininity and that to me is the point of living this lifestyle. We aren’t concerned with how deep your voice is or how e-feminit you are. I think those who try to live as just a top or just a bottom who need to have just a Masculine man or Feminine man could learn a thing or two. Who you date does not define your masculinity or femininity, it is truly based upon you and your actions.

Yea I know I’ve said a lot and I know there will be people who disagree with me and that’s fine I welcome the conversation because I think when we push ourselves and break out of traditional customs, we become an even better people. We live this Gay life and we should always be looking for ways to invite uniqueness and individualism, instead of ways to isolate and reject individuals.

#I’m back