Yo, I promise this is probably the biggest and most annoying thing that ALL niggas seem to do. When you talking, them motha fuckas will wax poetically about who they how. How they’re going to be different because they fill in all the fuckin blanks. When the truth is, soon as the real-life environment puts them words to the test, niggas come up shitty and shifty. Failing on all accounts, except to offer “words of support or encouragement”. Yes, those are cool, at times. But what happened to the actions backing up those words? Now days, dudes really think that them saying sweet shit, and holding a conversation is supposed to suffice for anything of substantial value, when the corresponding actions are lacking or missing as a whole. How the fuck do you call yourself a good real? A real one? And when it’s time to actually show what you say, you NEVER do. Ohhh, and then you either get frustrated, angry, bitter, or silent when the facts are put in your face?

To know me is to understand that I truly don’t ask people for shit. I’m very comfortable being built that way too. Not that I can’t or won’t ask if I don’t know or understand. But when situations happen, I’m going to do all that’s necessary to resolve it. So, when I actually reach out and provide details on shit, and you sit there looking stupid, giving all these typical ass nigga sentences about what you would and could do, I laugh. The opportunities have presented themselves on numerous occasions and they’re never seized upon. Instead, preferring to spend endless hours talking and musing about shit. Most of the time you’re not really focused on the conversation. Instead, you make general comments, or leave so much dry air and space, that one could question if you really care to be in the conversation. Never appreciating being called “You People”, because you swear to being different, only to be undressed and dismissed when the truth is put in your face.

Now, another way to handle it, is to be completely dumbfounded and ignorant to your own actions until presented with them. You know for grown ass men, I’ve never so many that obfuscate the responsibility of being a man. Just because You want to consider yourself the Queen or a baddie, don’t mean that You are. And even if You are, it doesn’t mean that Your actions don’t match Your words. That’s just fake and trifling. Nothing sucks more than having the look and the talk, but not the game. To say You like to cater to yours, but You are incapable of doing it for a few days, at your request, is fucking nuts to me. How is it again, that you’re able to think that you’re the prize, but there isn’t a lot substantively about You, that supports that position. Chasing and being chased is a two-way street in my book. When you want someone, you let them know, and if they want you back, they respond affirming you. If you have to chase a little, so be it; if you have to be chased, so be it. Nothing beats a lazy, lame, liar, pretending to be official and legit. Those people are funny thou. After you break them down, they look dejected and stupid in the face. Often times feeling combative with you and their friends, because they got embarrassed by you, and their friends agree that they were dumb as fuck. LMFAO!

The beautiful thing about how I live, is any words I tell you, best believe I back them all up. If you were in any distress and needed something, I’m there. If you’re down and out, I’m there. You lose family or someone you really cared for, I’m there. No questions asked, no sketchy behavior, no empty dry ass words. When situations happen where my words can be put into action, they are, and you know. I think what pisses people off most, is that I don’t get mad and nasty and angry when you don’t follow through. Nope, I’m like a prosecutor. I calmly speak my peace, giving you the receipts of what You told me about You and how You handle things, versus what ACTUALLY happened when it the shit got real. Life gone always life, real shit! The ability to maneuver thru it with your word meaning something, because your actions are dynamic is priceless. The reason I stop allowing myself to be open to you, the reason I no longer express excitement about You and our interactions is because at every opportunity, you leave the bag half empty. I have to provide ALL the ingredients to ensure success.

It doesn’t matter what type of relationship you have with someone. Friends, lovers, friends with benefits, family, sneaky link (LMAO), it all should come with some baseline respects. One of which being, when You say something, You do what You said. Yes, there will be times where life will conflict and You can’t be available, that’s understandable and expected. Yet, when You can and You just choose not to, that’s where the doubt begins. When someone notices that they’re always showing up for You, always gettin things going and You just follow along, that’s usually when problems start. While there are some people who don’t mind, and actually prefer to do EVERYTHING, most people don’t want to feel like they’re in something by themselves. A friendship with no reciprocation isn’t a real friendship. family dynamics where the relationship is always one-sided isn’t healthy. Intimate relationships where one person does all the hard work and the other just talks about it, isn’t building a lasting foundation. I don’t know if it’s the microwave culture or the let me be the fake influencer culture, but somewhere the important actions became less relevant, replaced by let’s do it for the camera. Wanting to be seen as real but not really acting like it.

No matter how you present yourself, masculine, feminine, both, whatever… You must be authentic in your presentation and delivery. You should always want to be viewed as someone to respect. Not liked! Unless that’s just your thing. I don’t aim to be the most liked person. In fact, there’s a lot of people who don’t like me for whatever their reasons, but if they really know me, they respect me. I might not say what you want or respond favorably to some fucked up shit you did, but I’m going to be open and honest with you about it. It may not make you feel good about it, and you might be disappointed with me because I didn’t agree with you. But if you’re a real individual, you will respect the fact I have my own independent mind, that can listen to a situation, ask questions to gather necessary details, and deliver my honest opinion. You know that when I say, I will be there for You no matter what, I’m fuckin there. The best people I’ve ever met are still around in my life. Not because we always agreed on shit. Not because they think like I think. Because they’re consistently honest about them. Richness of life that many may not have. If you do, then you’re fortunate.

To consider yourself a friend and a big brother, but when real life hits, you show me your ass is massively disappointing and sad. Thankfully, I didn’t lie to you and reject the tenants of the friendship, I provided grace and humility. Giving space for calm to prevail and re-engaging in a lesser, but still quality, friendship with you. There is an adult way to handle all things with other people. Understand when someone has the ability to be a blessing in your life and find the way to allow them to remain so the blessings can be delivered to you. No, the friendship will never grow back into what it was. I don’t believe you can move the way you did and then keep the foundation as sturdy and in-depth as it was. There needed to be a lightening of the mix. And there, the sweet spot has been found. Life lessons niggas. Sometimes, you don’t throw a person away because they let you down. Sometimes, you have to give space, and think about whether or not they are valuable to your life. If so, how do keep them in your life.

What a beautifully, peaceful day!