Month: July 2021

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Remember What Matters

Often times I’ve shied away from writing too many political blogs for a number of reasons. One, everyone seems to have some sort of opinion and the discussions always turn too extreme; two, I like to try to focus on things that are a little more intimate with your daily life situations. But, I also have to remember that politics is really an extension of daily life, just controlled mostly by old White men who talk in circles and don’t really do shit to solve the real problems. I’m amazed at the level of vitriol spewed by the mostly White congress, that Vice President Kamala Harris didn’t visit the Southern Texas border, as if her appearance will cause something to change immediately. It’s like they forget that their policies in regards for foreign aid to those impoverished nations to our South are in part responsible for the crisis that we have. When we try to give significant aid to those countries in order to help them build their own economies and countries, those entitled White men, usually bitch and complain, get control and strip away the amount of funding we give them. And they wonder why we constantly have this issue of hundreds of thousands of immigrants willing to take the journey to American borders for freedom.

Lets take what I just said and break this down into what happened this year. We had throngs of mostly White, prejudiced, some racist Americans raid the United States Capitol in the name of former President Donald Trump. They committed Insurrection. They committed Treason against this nation and those same entitled and prickly White men have done their damnedest to rewrite the narrative of that day. They tell you that it was nothing more than a normal tour of the Capitol. They say that all they was peacefully protest the results of the fairest, most secure election in American history. That’s the bullshit they want you to believe. Never mind that they found bombs outside both the Democratic and Republican National committees. Lets also not forget that they severely brutalized police officers that day. They found ammunition to the level that it would have done significant damage if they had the chance to use those weapons. They destroyed and defaced the Capitol. They broke into the offices of the Congress men and women and destroyed their offices. They potentially had access to sensitive, classified information. They tried to stop us from certifying and ratifying the fairly contested election.

And if that isn’t enough, since the inauguration Republicans all over this country have gone full sail to restrict Black people mostly, and brown people from having easy access to voting. Why is that so important? Because we all know that this country is not a White mans country anymore. This country is diverse and more colored that it is White. More progressive and diverse views are prevalent in this country and that means those old, tired White men are worried because they’re aware that the more people who vote, the less likely they get to hold on to the power and that means they don’t get to keep fucking this country up. I have a question, why are so many Republicans worried about Kamala Harris visiting the border, but they’re concerned with our bridges crumbling, our roads being all fucked up, we still have relatively slow ass train and rail service. Why are we still vastly underpaying teachers in this country. Why do they get so upset when we discuss cancelling student loan debt? Money that keeps people struggling for years and years. They care soo much about the Education system becoming more equal by teaching true American history. But, they don’t care about all the schools that still don’t have enough textbooks, that don’t have strong support systems for public schools.

Rich ass White people in that party care more about saving businesses from paying taxes and the uber rich, more than they care about making sure the American people can have true living wages. It’s dumb as fuck that so many people believe that Republicans are actually for the average American person. While at times they seem to stumble into supporting policies and legislation that work more for the middle class, regular person than the rich elite, it is far more likely that they’re going to do everything possible to protect their own. Meaning rich men and women like them and not the average person, or the Black person struggling to get to the next level in life. Maybe one day we will wake up and elect officials who really want to make this place better for the regular guy. Who wants to initiate policies that make so much sense that they won’t do it because it would upset their money train.

As I close this out, let us not forget what is really important. We have an Ozone that we’re burning through. We have global warming getting worse and worse. We have a public school system that is under attack and vastly underserving it’s students on the whole. We have laws passed that are restricting the ease of voting for people of color. We still have elements of Jim Crow at work all throughout the South. We have our highways, bridges and railways crumbling and lagging behind. We have a completely rigged tax code that favors rich people. We still have police unnecessarily killing, murdering Black people. We still have a justice system that isn’t working for all. We still have corporations charging more for their products and services, but not raising wages sufficiently. We still have a government that would rather keep wages suppressed, rather than making wages more livable. All these things and more are present, and a lot of them would have you thinking that Critical Race Theory is the most pressing issue of the day. That people being woke and attune to the social injustices are the most important. Remember what matters and what’s really important.

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Fears equals Failures

Try if you might to think of a time in life when you let your fears get the best of you. You were attempting to make major change in your professional career, or maybe personally you wanted to move to a completely foreign place. Perhaps you found someone you wanted to invest your time and energy into, or you wanted to take a substantial financial risk in hopes it paid off for you. Now for those of you who have always taken that leap of faith, or you found the courage to take it eventually, when you look back at it do you have a full understanding of why you let your fears make you a failure for those particular challenges that you neglected to act upon? I ask this question because when I talk to people and they tell me things they want to do or people they’re interested in, it’s amazing how quickly they will justify the reason or reasons why they didn’t go after it. Most times failing to realize that it comes down to fear. Being paralyzed by the idea of failing, made them a fail in their desire. We all know that you never get what you want if you don’t try. You also don’t find out if that thing or person is really a fit for you if you’re not putting your energy or effort into the matter.

It seems to be the most frequently talked about and known cliché thrown around and yet we still have so many folks who struggle to get out of their own way to go after that dream or goal or situation that might turn their lives from being ok, or decent, or solid and turn it into a life that is fulfilled and great. Greatness really isn’t something that you’re born with. You can be born into privilege or opportunity. You can be born into disadvantage or struggle, but it all amounts to just how much you’re willing to put yourself out there. I don’t know why this became the topic of discussion today in this post, but it just feels like I’ve come across so many people of late who have so many big dreams, goals or wants and just aren’t willing to get out of their own heads to take the risk of going for it. People who want to move out of the state they reside and move elsewhere, scared of leaving family or of being in a place they aren’t familiar. People who want to change professions that aren’t willing to push themselves and put their resume out for new opportunities. People who want to be on television, but not utilizing their resources to be discovered. People who want to sing, and instead of pursuing the goals blame others for their downfall.

I hope people really understand that it’s not about who didn’t do this or that for you. It’s not about what you don’t have that someone else does. It often comes down to who wants it the most. Who is willing to fail in order to get better. learn and go after that goal or dream again. If you want to be happy and inlove and married, you have to be willing to get your heart broken in order to get the love of your life. If you want to be a professional athlete, you have to be willing to get cut or be a backup in order to go after your dream of making it and being a main piece of the puzzle. Whatever it is you want to do, you have to be willing to make mistakes, be willing to fail, be willing to be critiqued so that you can be better and obtain what it is that you want. I will never understand why someone will let themselves settle all because you don’t want to take a chance. Or because you don’t want to be alone. If you’re giving the right energy, truth is you will never really be fully alone. Because people will continue to gravitate towards you, because you have energy that is magnetic.

Success and failure is as simple as risk versus reward. If you’re willing to risk it, you’re willing to reap all the reward of the energy and effort that you are putting into whatever it is that you’re doing. Be the next President of the United States, the next Governor of your state, the next Senator, the next astronaut or military General. Discover the cure to cancer and the cure to HIV/AIDS. All the things that are out there to achieve are only possible if you’re willing to fall and fail. If you are willing to be vulnerable in order to get people to invest in your journey. Take the chance, take the risk. Be bold, be confident and be resolved. If you do all of those things, you will get to what you want. Talent is part of it, mentality is the other part of it. Go strong and don’t let fear make you fail.

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Heart Chronicles – Real equals Real

Part of the problem with dating in the gay community, particularly the Black Gay community, is that no one really wants to be real and open with themselves and their feelings. Clearly this doesn’t apply to all people and in all places, but it is especially for folks who live in major metropolitan cities that are highly attractive tourist cities. There is this seemingly invisible, but very noticeable, atmosphere of fakeness. In short, so many niggas feel like they either have to stunt, pretend or manipulate their way through relationships. Willing to do emotional, mental and in some cases, physical trauma to a person in order to get what they want. Or to make sure that they’re never “missing out” on the next hot thing they see. It is the sad truth, that more often than not, gays like to be hoes. They like to feel like they’re the shit because they can get lots of dick or ass at any time, rather than feeling great knowing that that’s out there, but someone wants to take the time to know them and try to build something special and meaningful with them.

I think part of that struggle to get real and be real is because so many guys now are willing to have long term friends with benefits, and there is now a huge increase of open relationships, or polyamorous relationships. Essentially creating the space for a man to have what he wants. To be able to have more than one guy that they are dating and fucking and it all be above board. It allows the hoe to be a hoe, while also giving himself a little sense of security, because they have one or multiple that are their consistent sex and emotionally connected person. Missing are the days where guys really want to have something consistent. Something that takes time and effort and makes you have to show your true self in order to get what it is that you want. It is truly my opinion that because so many guys who want something real, come across all these liars and fakes, they eventually grow tired and allow themselves to just have casual interests, while waiting for the real one to come along. The tricky thing about that though is if you aren’t careful you become just what it is that you didn’t want.

The reality of what I notice is that it’s hard to come across people who are willing to tell you the truth and let that stand for itself. They rather tell a room full of lies and misrepresentations, when the simple truth will do. If all you want is sex with no strings say that from jump. If you’re looking for friends with sex privileges, then let that be known from jump as well. Don’t sit and give the lip service, you know you want to find someone special or you not trying to rush into anything; knowing that what you really mean is you just want to fuck and leave the emotions and attachments for another day if ever. The truth of the matter is you will attract what it is that your energy gives off. You can say all day long that you want the real thing, but if you’re vibes and energy don’t say that, you’re likely to come across mostly people who just want to fuck . Or those who to fuck and get financial benefits from you. It is very interesting just how many people say they want a guy but really they want the perks of the guy without really putting themselves into the situation.

The other unfortunate thing that comes from these currents dealings in a lot of places across the country is guys taking advantage of the getting to know you process. You know how that goes, you get a bottom who says they don’t want the usual shit. They don’t wanna Netflix and chill or nothing, they want to be takes on a date or dates. They want more than just the typical interaction. And while that can be true at times, it’s also true that usually means they’re going to use the person for what they can get. if they’re willing to spend a little money to make them feel special, they will try to ride that out for as long as they can. Or the reverse can be true as well. Guys now give the sob story of how they have no one to help them. That they work hard but are always broke. Never having money of their own for anything because they always spend it on “bills”. And again, this can be a logical and reasonable situation, but all too often it’s not. It’s just the latest scheme for a guy to get money out of people for their own benefit. And if the guy is real, he will peep that bull shit and just simply walk away, if he’s not or he’s desperate, well… ya pockets gone get touched up a little bit.

I don’t judge anybody for what they choose to do because it’s not my business to judge how you make your life choices. In this case, I’m just issuing words of advice… if you want to be a hoe be that, if you want to fuck around with a couple people do that, if you want to be a hopeless romantic lover, be that. No matter which path you choose and how you choose to operate in your personal life, just be authentic. Be real about your shit. It’s the thing that separates respect from disgust. I’m easy to admit that I can be a hoe, I can let you be my friend with benefits or I can cuff you. It’s all subject to what energy you give me. It depends on what you show me, more than what you tell me. As I told someone earlier, I do whatever I want whenever I want, until such time that someone decides they want to have my time and I feel they are worth it. They give me honesty and transparency that entices me to want to know more, have more, be more. I’m sure many of you feel the same way and once you announce that to the world, then you allow for all of your options to present themselves transparent and open, the choice then becomes yours.