I don’t know if this will apply to anyone who reads this, but maybe you know someone like this or you’ve been the recipient of this type of situation. There is a reality that I’ve learned about someone who has lied to you on an important level, that to me is funny and at the same time disturbing. A liar feels that once they’ve found their conscious to tell you the truth that they shouldn’t have to bear the brunt of your energy after being told the truth, because they’ve already had to deal with their own issues and feelings about the situation. It’s like they feel entitled to be let off the hook from any further consequence, like ok they admitted to the truth so give them credit and let the situation die. I don’t know who told them that, but that has got to be the biggest bunch of bullshit I’ve ever seen. Admitting that you lied isn’t the get out of jail free card. It is the start of maybe being forgiven, and working your way towards being trusted again. The truth starts that process towards healing and having real openness, not you feeling vindicated and just simply moving forward.

Something else that learned about a liar’s truth, is they may not accept all of what them telling the truth means. They don’t necessarily accept that there are emotional pains that need to be healed from the lies. When you lie about serious matters and then come clean, it creates a ripple effect that takes time to recover from, if you ever recover. The trust that’s lost may never return, and just as importantly, the emotional scars you caused by hiding the truth and just expecting your honesty to remove whatever damage you caused is totally unrealistic. I don’t understand why someone who lied feels that they can just snap their fingers with the truth and magically everything is back to normal. You have to do some work to try and gain back what was lost. The vibe is completely fucked up, the energy is off balance, and your mind is no where near stable. Your heart is most likely torn too, because you gave it to someone thinking that they’re going to protect it and cherish it. Instead, they decide to hurt it and tear it apart. Do people think about the full consequences of their act of lying? Is it that you think the truth is more hurtful that those lies you’re about to tell. Or is it that you’re too selfish and don’t want to lose someone?

The worst thing that a liar can do is tell the truth and then shut the conversation off because they don’t want to hear how they’ve made the person feel. It is a cowards way out to me and it also shows how little respect you have for the feelings of the person you’ve been lying to. How can you expect to turn the page and maintain anything of substance if you don’t allow the person to fully express how they feel. It all rings of selfishness in my mind and there really isn’t way to spin it to say it is anything different. If anyone says, oh I lied to protect you because I didn’t think you could handle knowing the truth, you’re just covering up the fact that you knew if you told the truth the person would stop fucking wit yo lame ass. It wasn’t that you lied to protect them, you lied to protect yourself. You knew that you would be on the outs and lose out on someone that was good for you, so you hid that shit so you could keep what you got. The problem is either your conscious or the pressure of keeping up them lies would get the best of you at some point. That is if you really care about the person, you’re not going to want to keep lying to them or hiding shit from them. If you’re just narcistic. In that case, you will keep lying to protect your ass.

Come to think of it, I’m almost sure that most everyone has dealt with this in some fashion with someone close to them in life. Be it a spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, best friend or family member. You know how you felt when the truth was finally told to you. You know that sickening feeling that you got in your stomach. You know how angry and hurt it made you to know that that person would lie to you about something important and significant. I’m sure in the moments that followed you questioned that person, their loyalty to you and whether or not you could trust them. I just really wonder why so many liars feel they’re entitled to coming clean and not having to hear about it though. Like you really feel that you should get a medal for telling the truth. You know, the thing that you’re supposed to do anyway. If you had done that to begin with, there wouldn’t be a need for the moment in the first place. As I found myself in this situation not too long ago, I sat thinking all the things that I’ve written about today. My conclusion for my situation is that the nigga was selfish and only wanted to think about him and what he wanted. Little does he know, it is all coming to an end, sooner than he realizes.

Like, comment, discuss with your people. Tell the truth.