I’ve spent some time thinking about this current post that I’m writing tonight. It’s suffice to say that we have struggle with this at some point in our lives, for various reasons. In this particular situation I’m addressing the difficulty of having to let go of someone that had your heart. It’s arguably one of the most difficult things that we have to do in life. Whenever we open ourselves up and let someone get close to us, we hope that we never have to close that door and remove or alter how we see that person or those people. In terms of a romantic relationship, it seems that nothing is harder than to have to give up on someone that you love. I think it is pretty obvious why this is so hard, but I’m going to dig a little deeper into the details and also give the logical reasons as to why it ultimately is for your benefit that you move on from what was.

You know on the surface it’s easy for someone to say you need to move on from someone. Or for them to question you as to why you have decided to stay with someone much longer than they feel you should, or longer than what the outside world says you should based upon what they see. The missing element is that anyone who is offering their advice or their opinion, is likely missing key elements as to why you have stayed. They could range from having children, to living together and having financial business tied up together. It could be that when you were in a compromising position that person helped you out of that unfortunate situation. Or maybe for that head space that you were in during that period of your life they were the perfect comforter and supporter. These things lead to emotional connections being deeper than people on the outside know, and it also means that you are more likely to hang in there and fight for what you have if you believe it to be true. Even if it has gone a little past the expiration date, you don’t want to give up on someone because it gets difficult or because you aren’t as in sync as you once were. You like to think that maybe it’s just life intervening and once you have time to address the issues y’all will be back on track.

Don’t get me wrong, often times that does prove to be the case. Life makes relationships go through good periods and rough period. And it is often the ones who refuse to accept less than or accept that life’s challenges will ruin something that they felt is meant for them. Sometimes we like to think that we are bigger than the issues that befall us. Yet, there is a fine line that must be walked when trying to fix something or hang onto someone when things aren’t going so well. Sometimes, that struggle is meant to reveal true character and allow for you to decide if the two of you have out grown each other, or maybe just one of you is ready to move on to another and the other person isn’t quite ready yet. See things happen to give you insight and help you make the appropriate decisions when it comes to the ones you choose to love. Often times we don’t want to accept it because the answer is usually definitive and counter to what we want to do. I’m here to tell you that it may be best to listen to that voice and heed the vision being shown to you. It could very well be setting you up for your next love and better match to come into your life.

You have to be willing to put past people and relations behind you in order to make room for the future and present situations in your life. You can’t always be afraid to let go of someone, let them grow, let yourself grow and move on to the next phase of your life. I do truly believe that if someone is meant to be yours they will be. And at the same time, I believe that you can miss your blessing because you’re too busy stuck on what was and what has been and not on what is and what will be. Be willing to allow your heart to feel disappointed, reassuring it that better is coming and better is waiting for you to be ready for it to come to you. Don’t shy away from love and being love. Take your time though, to heal from past pain and hurt. To evaluate yourself and be fully prepared to present yourself fully to the next person. While also being prepared to handle the baggage that will come with the next person. Failure produces growth if you pay attention and learn the lessons. So that should only make you better prepared for the next relationship that comes your way.

Next time you have a situation in front of you that you know isn’t going to last or make it, don’t be afraid to say I got to let you go. I’ve got to move on, because that will be the thing that saves you more heartbreak and devastation. It will also be the things that propels you to future successes and greatness. What do you think?