The truth of the matter is that sex can often be a way of coping, offering a release from the struggles and challenges you face. It allows you to take the tension off. To fuck or be fucked and forget that you’re facing emotional and difficult things. Taking away the pain, however temporary, giving you a rush that makes you feel like you’re normal when you know that you’re not. Sex also soothes a situation sometimes. It can allow for you to take out the tension in your relationship by sexually releasing all that energy so that you can talk with each other and hopefully resolve your issues minus the negative energy. It can also just be for pleasure and fun. To fuck whomever and not worry about feelings or emotions attached because all you really want to do is get that nut and feel that elation. All three of these can be addicting and misleading, while also proving beneficial.

Having sex as a means of coping after a painful breakup or a damaging situation is very tricky. This type of sex is usually very misleading and has the power to be highly addicting. Because you’re getting that euphoric release and, if you’re not just fucking and going you have the ability to form a nice little vibe with people you’re sexing. It’s providing a false dynamic though. Because the vibe is just so you feel comfortable enough to fuck the person that you just met. And depending on how that vibe goes, you could become regular fuck buddies. But be careful, you could also mislead and misread things and end up in another quasi-relationship before you’ve healed from the last heartache. You have to be strong enough to resist that urge to make more out of jus the sex that you’re having.

Conversely, while you both might have an understanding of what purpose the sex serves, the other person might catch your vibe and try to push for more, especially if the sex is good as hell. In a situation like this you may need to be prepared to pull the plug on the situation and find you some new dick or ass, because you don’t want to set yourself up for failure too quick. It is that yearning for feeling the heat and intimacy of another that will lure you into that false sense of fulfilment. The truth of the matter is, usually, once you get that nut you return to the mindset that you had before that urge for sexual satisfaction kicked in, you’re back in that place trying to recover from that pain.

Now in my opinion, the best kind of sex is make up sex. We all have had that experience. After you and your partner have an argument or y’all just been going through a little hard time, as is apt to happen in life, and you get that chance to take out all your aggression and energy in that sex session or sessions. That moment when all that energy and tension is released feels like heaven. It’s like you can feel the weight coming off your shoulders. The atmosphere around you two gets lighter. You have more of a lightness and willingness to discuss things than you did before. It feels good to your body and mind, as well as a little soothing to the soul. But, just like the prior type of sex, you have to be careful with this too. Because you can turn this kind of make up passion into a regular thing and that can cause too much pressure on any relationship.

Yes, it can be fun and more erotic to enjoy aggressively pleasing your partner or being pleased, but it can create an air of uncertainty. After a while, you will tire of always needing to have “fights” in order to have highly passionate and emotional sex. That’s when you have to find the things that make you love that person and do things to make that become the muse for highly erotic and passionate sex with your lover. It’s true nothing will replace that heat of the moment sex to make you feel better, but it’s always going to be a quick fix, but don’t let that become the only fix.

Finally, the easiest of the three sexual expeditions is the meaningless, just for fun sex. This kind of sex is usually for people who are single and have no desire to get into a relationship at that time. They just want to feel the pleasure of another pleasing them or being pleased. You want to get that good nut and then let them go on about their business. We’ve all been there at some point. Be it a long period of time or just during your hoe period. Where you just want to fuck. No strings, no long periods of time together. It no doubt is very thrilling, because you usually are willing to far more experimenting than you would in other situations. You may not mind the random hook up, in open places, as well as traditional ones. You might be willing to have the occasional threesome or even a little group play.

There is nothing wrong with exploring your inner freak. But again, a word of caution here with this type of sex. It can truly be highly addicting. And, if you’re not careful it can be a little harmful to your health. Make sure that you strap up during these times, as you never know what you may come across. But, I know many people who just don’t prefer to use them at all, and if that’s you, just be very careful and selective. Have all the fun you want, just don’t put yourself at risk too much. Just don’t let yourself get trapped in a fwb situation that becomes a relationship, because that friend had sex that too addicting and you didn’t keep perspective.

See all of these types of sex offer different benefits and challenges. You have to be sure that whichever one applies to you, you’re responsible and prepared to handle the different possibilities that may arise. Have fun, have great sex and make some fun memories.