If you are familiar with the metaphorical Phoenix, then you understand that to be called a Phoenix is both a blessing and a curse. This post strips away the physical form of this beautiful creature and focuses on the characteristics and how they apply to the human self and how it is impacted. From my point of view the Phoenix being has great strength and passion. A love that burns bright and pure. They give of themselves unapologetically, and yet is often taken for granted and mistreated. They are underappreciated and not given their flowers until after they’ve moved on from those that have damaged them. They and others marvel at their ability to recover and rebuild from devastation and hurt. It can often times create a twisted addiction to the thrill and flame out, but eventually that strength becomes it’s weakness. That fire burns too bright and too long and they just can’t take anymore. Causing another beautiful soul to turn black and either wither away or retreat into a more introverted way of being.

I think that the general guiding premise for the Phoenix like personality, is that you are at the core a pure soul. You have intentions that are only good. You love with clear and vibrant passion. You have an energy and fire about you that is contagious and unmistakable. People often gravitate towards you, but also away from you because your fire is bright and almost always positive. That keeps away those who seek to have you toiling in their negativity. It is something that leaves you prone to being more alone at times because your strength of character doesn’t allow you to be manipulated easily into wrong doing. Or contributing to unsuccessful behavior. Your strength of purpose and resolve makes others envious at times and that also creates a void of friends. Usually that means when you truly make genuine friendships, they last a long time.

The weakness though of the type of individual is a part of their strength. The power of their flame can be used against them. The actions and doings of others impacts the Phoenix person greatly. So imagine that someone is able to get close to you and then abuses you. Takes advantage of the loving and kind and generous nature that you operate from. Once you have removed the rose hue that you look at them with, it is innate within you to now defend yourself from that. But, when it’s someone that you love and care for deeply, you struggle to use that flame to properly extinguish them. Instead you let your blue flame burn enough to shield you, while still being impacted by that negative red flame. It creates a pain that tolerate because you have the strength to withstand it. But the question is for how long and at what cost?

How long will you let that person affect you and how much are you willing to pay in order to let this happen. Are you willing to lose your career, health, internal peace, external happiness and all the possessions that you have worked for, all in the name of loving someone? All because you know that deep down, once you truly activate that Phoenix spirit and character within, you will rise again from the destruction, battered but intact. But the question is how intact are you? Are you losing pieces of yourself every time you have to rise again from the proverbial grave? And then it prompts me to think about the concept that’s presented in one of the mythical stories about the Phoenix bird. That after time, the animal grew tired of living eternally and always being able to reprise itself after flaming out and burning. So it eventually gave up that eternal rebirth and allow itself to be extinguished.

My take on the human characteristic of the Phoenix is that there comes a time when that Phoenix within has had enough. It can’t take the burning flames any longer. It doesn’t have the same energy to give and it eventually gives up. This of course, is if that person isn’t able to find what their inner Phoenix really wants. Someone to tame that flame. To love them and care for them as passionately as they do. Give their full effort and energy so the inner Phoenix doesn’t feel the need to be ignited and burning all the time. When this occurs, it is my belief that then that inner Phoenix can survive, recharge and be prepared should it need to be activated again for a prolonged period of time.

I don’t believe that everyone has an inner Phoenix or better yet, is a Phoenix. It is given to select people, but it’s not hard to detect. Primarily because that energy radiates off the person. It can always be felt. They have a constant warmth to their body because the energy from the fire burns strong. If you are one of these people, let that Phoenix protect you as much as it can, but also be open to letting someone ease that flame, just be careful who you select. If you are the person that gets to be with someone who has this Phoenix quality, understand they are special and will be unlike any person before or after them.