There are times that I sit and just think about what it takes to achieve greatness within a relationship. It’s the things that must be done, in my mind, in order to ensure that a relationship is healthy and both parties feel complete. It is in my opinion that there are elements in relationships that need to be met in order for there to be peace. One, there needs to be a sense of partnership that exists. Now when I say partnership I mean exactly that. It is the sense of equalness and shared responsibility. If the two of you are living together then there should always be a sense of equality with regards to household responsibilities.

I think that one of the more underrated and often forgotten aspects of relationships, is the actual partnership involved. I think relationships that are strong and healthy have a strong sense of partnership. Each individual knows what’s needed and contributes their parts to ensure that they’re both coming up together. That with financial and mental stresses of a relationship are shared equally. Or, shared to the degree that each person has what they need to feel that they are in a true partnership within the relationship. There is an inevitable sense of pressure that gets felt when someone feels that they’re taking on all of the responsibility or when one person doesn’t feel the need to be as committed to handling their share.

I feel that one thing that shouldn’t be overlooked is someone who doesn’t appear to have the drive and push to level up accordingly. It it irrespective of age. I don’t and won’t accept that someone needs to reach a certain age in order to understand that concept. I think it is more of a mentality that has be at the forefront of the mind. And it doesn’t just stop at the financial aspect. The emotional and physical part of the relationship is just as critical. A partnership means that one should feel all the love coming back that they give putting out. But it also means having the patience to allow your partner to grow into what they need to.

In a partnership, sometimes it requires someone to guide the other to help them grow and develop further. A person sometimes has to understand that we all need assistance with being a full partner. With saying all that I did at the top of this blog, it’s important to understand the full dynamics. When you have a partnership you also have to realize that there is likely to be an imbalance. Relationships aren’t like businesses. You can’t honestly expect to have a real 50/50 split. The truth is that in any relationship the different elements will have a different split in the partnership aspects. Maybe on the partnership level its 70/30, the companionship level it’s 40/60, the intimacy level it’s 65/35. All of these different pieces to the puzzle make up the whole. If you don’t have levels that are reassuring and comforting to you then you have to figure out what to do.

Before you decide what to do or what needs to be done, you need to ask yourself at what level are you both at from a partnership standpoint. Are you more prepared than the your lover. Are they more polished in other aspects of the partnership than you are. What ever the case may be, you need to understand that it all works together. Part of the partnership part is the communication aspect as well. That to me is the one part where it needs to be just as close to 50/50 as it can get. When that part of your partnership is off too far, then that will be a potential downfall. See, the shit just isn’t as black and white as you think. So examine things for yourself, think about what you see and feel and make your own decisions about how best to move forward.