Another one of the more overlooked and underappreciated elements within a relationship is the companionship piece. That seems to be something that people often lump together with sex, but in reality it’s its own dynamic. To have someone be your companion to me, is like having that person who sees things similarly to you. They have a personality that meshes with yours. They love being in your presence as much as you do. You can have easy and open talks. You love just hanging around and interacting with each other. You like being cuddled up and laid up together. There is an aura of bliss that seems to permeate the air when you are together bonding. These are things that bring the companionship part out of your relationship.

It generally has nothing to do with the physical acts and elements of the relationship. It can however, be a catalyst to passionate, deeply intimate sex when it happens. Don’t believe me, just try it out. Allow the day to just flow to you instead of forcing it upon you. Let the relationship have the air to breathe and the energy to thrive. If you have a true companion, you guys can have dinner together and just talk about the bullshit of the day or talk about things that you don’t know about the other. Growing closer and bonding, all while just being the others companion. Watch movies together, go take a walk in the park. Do the little things that make you want to be around each other all the time.

Can you see yourself being quarantined with the person. In the current climate that we’re living in, if you’re being safe and protecting yourself, then you and that person may be seeing a lot of each other or none of each other. If you know that you can’t be without that person, it’s very reasonable to assume that not only are they your lover, but they’re also your companion. A companion is needed in my mind for your relationship to be really successful. Many folks love their partner, but don’t always enjoy being with their partners. They love the sex they provide, they love the stability or security they provide, but not really the companionship they offer. I wonder why that is for some. Is it because you don’t have a lot in common? Is it because you have taken the time to develop that bond? Is it because you just have that strong a desire for the dynamic or do you just use your friends to fulfil that part for you? Whatever it is, I think the relationship is done a disservice if you don’t include that part.

Now, back to my previous point. If you want to know how the companionship part can make your sex life even better, try having a date night. Try just laying around with just the two of you, talking having fun, playing with each other. Then just let the night come to you. See how intimate and special it feels. Try softly kissing and touching on your partner and see how their body feels and reacts to you. I’m sure that the night will take a different feel and subsequently your sex as a whole will have more connection that you think. What do you think?