One of the questions I have thought about over time is whether or not people are really legit when they say that they want someone to be their forever. In other words, they want to find that person that will be their last. Their last relationship, their last time having to date and learn someone on that level. The last time they have to lay with someone in bed. The last person that they will ever have sex with again. The last person to share those lifelong and life lasting moments with. I’m not sure that people really have an appreciate for the magnitude and weight that saying that statement carries.

I feel as though in this world there is a gross underappreciation for telling someone you want to be with them forever. That is to me the most life defining moment in terms of love and happiness. There is no more clear and definitive way to express love for someone than to say you want to be with them until you die. For some, they want that to continue to the afterlife as well. I wonder just how many people are truly ready for that which they speak out loud. I think it’s worthy of digging a little deeper to understand why people use that phrase as a ploy and manipulation, rather than actually wanting to hold to its meaning.

You know if you want to be honest, if you say that you are in love with someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you also want them to be your forever. As we know in life, love seems to be far more fleeting in this decade than it was previously. People are far more comfortable uttering that word out of their mouth to someone, even if they really aren’t prepared to act upon the seriousness of that word. It means something deeper and more powerful when you can look someone in their eyes and that I want you to be my forever. I want you to be the one that gets my everlasting love. That you can look at that person and say that my love is truly unconditional and never ending. That you want to make every decision of the rest of your life with and for that individual, along with yourself.

It is very uncharacteristic for people to say that these days. Normally, the average person will tell you they love you. Or they will say that they’re in love with you. Words that while definitely not taken lightly, again don’t have the same infinite and life changing as being called someone’s forever. I just wonder how many people have really had that person come in their lives and they realize it and accept it with the openness that is required. Do you even want to have that type of bond and relationship with someone, that you can say that they are your forever. That you will never desire another man or woman for the rest of you life. That you are happy, content, satisfied and comfortable with walking into eternal life with that person.

Honestly, I’ve thought about this a few times and while it has been a thought in my mind maybe once or twice regarding individuals, I never took it as a serious measure until now. Now, I think that for the first time I can truly say that my forever man is here and doesn’t seem to be going anywhere anytime soon. Listening to him express that love for me and that definitiveness that he has taken his place as the one in my life for the rest of my life never made me more proud and ecstatic. I can honestly say that this is the first time that someone has said those words to me. That someone unprompted and unafraid expressed their endless and deeply personal and passionate love for me. It gave me a new understanding for what it means to truly be in love with someone and have someone be in love with me.

This man has everything I need and want in a spouse. He has given me every reassurance of his love and dedication to me. His soul seems to be connected to mines, his heart is interwoven with mines and our lives are forever linked as one. When that day comes that the official markings of this union are given, it will be something that I’ve never experienced before and something I will never experience again. This man is my forever and I am his. I challenge you to take time and think about if you want a forever partner or if you already have one. Share a story if you dare. Keep the conversation going.