Ahhhhh, a subject that many have talked and written about and still is a destructive force today. The role that social media, phones and apps play in daily relationships, not to mention, actual relationships is probably getting worse by the day. I’ve noticed that a number of my friends who have gotten in to substantive relationships have minimized their time on social media. I don’t see the posts nearly as frequently as when they were single or when they were in the infancy stages of their relationships. It doesn’t take a scientist for me to figure out why that really is. And in reality I don’t think anybody really can’t figure it out.. Social Media and overuse of it and the phone you use, can destroy your relationship.

I don’t think I really understand the need for anyone to have their phone in their hand all day every day. it defies the logic to me of having a successful relationship, if you and your partner reside in the same state and definitely within the same household. I think people tend to forget just how important interacting with your partner is to the effectiveness of your relationship. One thing that always confuses me is how people will talk about the type of individual they are or how they don’t like this that or the other, but you will see them doing the exact thing or things they say they don’t like. Or the argument that goes, as long as their physically with their partner, whatever they’re doing doesn’t matter. That to is a like a person saying, I’m not a cheater, but I like to flirt with other people.

Temptation is a bitch and a lack of attention to the needs of your significant other, is the other bitch that bites back. I often wonder how many people find this to be problematic in their relationships. And secondly, what is it that they do to combat that so that it doesn’t really become a divisive issue. I think we all can have a bit of social media obsession. We can all keep the phone glued to our hands a little too much. But, when does it become a conscious thing of no matter what I’m going to prioritize my phone over everything. How many times can you look at the same things over and over again. How many times can you watch the same kinds of videos over and over. When does enough intake become enough? I’ve never really had the issue of overkill with my phone, because there reaches points in the day where I just really don’t care for it. Where I would rather be engaging with my boyfriend in any way rather than being on the phone.

We live in a time now where everything is available on the phone. So from that stand point I truly understand. You can watch tv, listen to music, communicate, learn, read and research any and everything with just the clicks of your fingers and it’s there for your consumption. So again, to a degree I understand and support the need to use technology for many things. But one thing I also know, is that if you put more time in the phone and on the folks who are within that world on phone, than you do with the person that shares your space.. you could be alone with you and that phone. Maybe for some that’s what they want and maybe for others they just don’t care. Some may see it as why is an issue if you’re “together”. But ask yourself this question, what kind of quality is obtained by just being together, if there ain’t no interaction between you?