Back again with the next installment in this series. I previously gave you three different things that love is. It is beautiful, complicated and disappointing. Today, I choose to say that love is challenging. A close synonym to complicated but not exactly. Lets explore why I said that love is a challenge. I think that love is challenging because it requires you to take each day separately from the day before. You know people are creatures of habit. We like to get in our own routines with things and so when you’re dealing with love, there isn’t a pattern or routine that you can get comfortable with because the person that you love may not allow for that to happen. Meaning, their mood, demeanor, characteristics they show from day to day may cause you to be off balance until you learn better why they behave they way they do.

That whole statement I just made could be enough to close this damn blog and have people think about what I said and comment. But I will break it down a little further. You know when you profess your love for someone, or you find yourself saying that you are in-love with someone, you are accepting that your love will be tested regularly. You are saying that everything you know about that person allowed you to let them into your heart. Your accepting that tomorrow you could very well sit and think what the fuck was I thinking. LOL, I know it doesn’t make sense to some, but if you are a person who deals with someone who has temperament changes, you know where I’m coming from. It can be very uncomfortable when you are dealing with someone who makes you smile, makes you feel good, and at the same time can frustrate the hell out of you.

There are normally so many other factors that go into that of course. Do the two of you live together? How long have you guys known each other? What is each of your backgrounds? Are you both open, talkative people or is one more introverted and one more extroverted? Are you both experienced in the dating world, if your gay, in the gay world? Is there a significant age gap, that creates different mental aptitudes? Do you have the same basic common interests? Do you have a similar thought process about sex? Is there stability on both parts? Just that quickly, I popped nine different questions that play into the dynamic of love and being in-love. That is one is biggest reasons I say that love is challenging. Navigating all these different obstacles daily, or weekly or monthly in order to know that your love is as deep and real as you claim it to be. Understanding what it means to have challenges in your relationship means that you will be able to have strong bases if you are able to honestly and truthfully address these obstacles. I want y’all to think about that and to also be honest with yourself. Have you felt that way about your wife or husband? Your boyfriend or girlfriend?

If you haven’t that’s great, maybe that means you have the perfect one or you answered all your questions and things are routine for you. If not, then it means you are normal and you have the same set of circumstances as many other people: the love you feel is challenged by the things you continue to learn about your partner. Take some time and think about this topic. Let me know how you feel and what you feel. Open dialog lets discuss.