Well.. I know that anybody who reads this has had encountered situations where these three words were front and center. Whether you had or have trust issues or you’ve been fed lies that shook your trust, or you kept getting a changing truth that made trust hard to give.

Something I can never understand is why gay niggas feel the need to lie, hide and play the role just to get acceptance from someone. To me that’s like the first rule of dealing and dating, don’t play the role just because. It makes everything become a question. It raises doubt about the legitimacy of the person and their intentions. It creates unnecessary tension, solely because you decided that you needed to have a backup plan or wanted to protect your spot somewhere.

It is a false premise and a foundation breaking situation. It makes people less likely to want to help you and to believe in what you say. I wanna question someone who chooses to operate in this manner. I want to know why do you feel that’s the best thing for you to do? Why do u think the other person shouldn’t be upset with you? Why do you feel that you should get defensive when the shit comes to light during discussion? It defies logic and reason. You lie and present a facade and think that your word should still be trusted? Who the fuck does that? It’s selfish and uncaring. It’s very disrespectful and wrong.

I get it that the world seems to think all decisions should be made to ensure self preservation and to avoid falling if you make a misstep. But the reality of the situation is that falling is part of life. Trying to mitigate that by manipulating a situation is wrong. It can cost you a good friend or more depending on how deep you play your role. It creates hard feelings, it creates distrust and usually that’s where friendships and relationships meet their grave.

I’ve always said I respect the person who tells the truth, even if it hurts or is uncomfortable. The authenticity with which we move is far more important than covering your ass with lies. Basically, it always catches back up to you too. The same way you moved to get next that individual will be the same way your shit gets exposed. No one deserves to have this happen, and when they do it’s not necessary to pay lip service either. Be a grown ass individual, own your shit and move forward. Accept your wrong and try to move forward repairing the damage you created.

Like I said, I will never fucking understand why people do this shit. If your that damn pressed for a backup, don’t do your primary option if there isnt a measure of certainty behind it. Talk to me y’all. Have u been through to it? Talk back to me