Whenever you’ve spent years of your life participating in someone’s life day in and day out, week in and week out, it’s hard to say good bye and let that go. But there comes a time when you have to read the leaves and allow for the breeze to blow them in another direction. As you see this happening more often in you life, you have to also think if maybe you’re being prepared for the next phase of life.

Seeing someone pull away from a bond you thought would never end is never easy to accept. Watching the friendship whither and end is always difficult, but the truth is, as Madea said best, everybody in your life has a season. I’ve said to folks many times that you have to be able to accept when someone’s season is up in your life. You can want to hold on all you want, but you gotta be able to stiffen up ya back and say farewell. Maybe the wind blows them back after some time and maybe they continue to blow them further away, just know that you did your best the rest will eventually fall in place.

Something else that was also said during one of Madea’s monologues was that if you tell someone that something they’re doing is affecting your friendship/relationship with them and they make an effort to change, you need to hold on to those folks because they’re trying and showing you that they’re a root and not a branch or leaf. I believe that the reason an action like this is so important, is because it shows that the person values you in their life and that’s something that can’t be duplicated. Either someone wants to have your friendship or they don’t.

I understand all the reasons why people hang on and keep believing that whomever the person is will come around. If you spend years sharing moments and adventures then severing that tie is hard. If you have emotional connections that one may feel transcended the relationship and now it seems like there’s a cold distance, you feel obligated to hang around to see if you can find out what’s wrong and fix it. But, the truth is if all these are true and you find yourself in this position, maybe it’s the truest sign that the time has come to let go and let the benediction take it’s place.

Never say never, but sometimes the end is needed for progression with the plan in your life. Sometimes, we have to be ok with understanding that the steps of our lives are ordered and the ending of a long time relationship is part of the path designed for your life. Because we gotta remember, if something or someone is meant to be around in any capacity they will be and there’s nothing that can stop it. So I know for a fact that this is something that affects many and torments a lot, but if you really think about it it’s something that always has to happen.

Live free, be strong and keep moving on, greater and better are only a moment away.