I’ve been a very vocal proponent over the years of allowing yourself to love and be loved. I have also said that you never know when it’s going to happen, how it will happen and where it will come from. Many times we feel like we need to have it happen the “pure” way that the older folks and mostly Church folks say it should happen. You know, meet and talk. Go on a few plutonic dates and have the night end there. No sex for a while in order to see if it’s lust or love, and then move from there.

If you know me, you know I say that’s pure bull shit in todays age. Yes, there can be harmless dates and courtship and flirting, but the reality also is that people wanna fuck and see if they like the dick or ass or pussy as much as if they like the person. Disagree with me all you want, but that’s just the truth of the matter. I don’t really care if anyone agrees with my last statement, but if you’re honest about it, most times that’s exactly how it goes. There might be a couple dates thrown in there, but I can also bet that sex will come to the front of the list sooner than later.

I get so tired of people meeting up and trying to sound the alarm of the wholesome guy who’s never done anything and they always need to know you before they fuck you, when in their minds they thinking of how can they make the sex happen before the end of the first month or two. LOL! One of the most critical elements of love is truth. Whether it’s a freak speaking their truth or a conservative person speaking their truth. Love will allow for you to be open and honest enough to express all that you want and letting the chips fall where they may.

As I like to say, you never know when love will strike and most times it happens when you truly least expect it. You can think you about to have a normal hookup. Just a nut and before you know it you and that person realize that you truly might be meant to be. That’s when you have tune out the naysayers and ignore those who say that it’s just lust that will fade. You gotta believe that things happen for a reason and what you feel is truly real. If you think it won’t be tested, you can think again. Love is always tested. Relationships are always challenged. See that’s how you find out if it’s truly real. The challenges and tests let you know if the person is really for you. If the love is truly real or just a means to survive.

Yes it’s scary and creates a vulnerability that you have to accept, but the reward is better than any fear you can have. The reason that you gotta open yourself is because no one wants to spend their life alone, and if you find someone that fits into your puzzle, why would you keep them out just because you’re afraid. Just always remember, you’re love between the two of you is just that yours. No one can tell you how to love each other nor how to show it. If you like to display your affection in public do it, if you like to please your lover do it. Because always remember they love you because who you are and what you aren’t. Open yourself and let your soul be free to get caught up in the mystery. Love, feel, breathe and enjoy. The journey will reward you if you stay true to your soul.