It’s interesting to me that I continue to come across guys that seem to think that the love of their partner has to be shown by how much money is spent on them. Whether it be them being taken on a date, or being brought clothes, shoes and so on. It’s amazing to see how many people really base their happiness off of whether or not they man or woman is willing to spend they money on them, or take care of them.

It’s been a time old tradition that the one with less feels like they gotta be given more. Or the one being chased must always get what they want in order to say that their pursuer is truly feeelin them. I’ve come to understand some of the logic behind that method of thinking, but I’m would be lying if I said it makes complete sense. I’m thankful that I’ve been able to have a couple relationships where my guy was more concerned with how much I could love on them, make them happy, do the small things that built its way to bigger things.

Maybe people have gotten use to that because that’s what t.v. says is supposed to happen. The movies are created with the high balla gettin what he wants, while the regular man is continually passed over until the end, when he’s shown to have been the best choice. I think that we have to have a real conversation as to whether or not we’re really being smart about how we teach our children and loved ones to look for and determine what love really looks like.

What happens if that person falls on hard times? Maybe they get laid off, or get sick and can’t continue to provide like they once were. They can’t buy you the hundreds of dollars of stuff you use to. Would you still be right there beside them? Would you still claim them, or just like the wind, would you blow in the direction of the next highest bidder? Sounds like a prostitute, doesn’t it? But say that out loud and baby you can get ready for a full blown argument.

While I will never tell anyone what to look for or how to go about finding love, I will always tell you the truth about why your love life is failing. I will tell you that the reason things fall apart is because you’re looking for the wrong things. Happiness should never be able to be brought. And, it should never have a time limit placed on it either. Nobody walking this Earth knows when or how they’re going to fall in love. You could think that the same random sex act you’ve set up will deliver the same results and before you know it, you’ve found someone that actually fits everything that you are and want.

The point I’m making is.. it’s not always about the money. And it ain’t always about doing things the “wholesome” way. Sometimes, you have to just live your life and let things happen as it may. The spoiling will take care of itself, as long as the love is there.