What I’ve commonly began to learn about people is that not many really have the ability to look themselves in the mirror without being forced to do so. I think that one of the greatest problems of our generation is being current with our lives and the ability to be alone with ourselves to bring about change.

You know many people love to tell me that I’m mean, or evil. That I’m a bitch or an asshole. I hear how much I’m stubborn and stuck in the way I see it. The list can go on and on about my negatives that I’m constantly told about. Yet, when the shit drops I hear how loyal I am, how much I truly go out my way to help someone. Maybe the truth is that I can be all of these things because while I’m going be the former to protect myself, I’m also the latter because I gotta look at myself every day.

Make no mistake about it, I think we would be a better people if instead of pointing the finger at someone else all the time when things go wrong, we stop and evaluate ourselves first and acknowledge that we had some part of the failure too. You know I get so tired of hearing or seeing people say they’re going back to their old way, like that shit was any better.

The truth is if your old ways were so damn good, you wouldn’t have tried to change them in the first place. What happens most times is that we try something out for a brief moment thinking that it’s going to yield instant results, and when it doesn’t we give up too quickly and run back to what we know. Which means we’re not really looking in the mirror and certainly not trying to grow.

I would implore folks to stop trying to dictate change and let the changes we need to make take the time it requires to become realized. I often wonder why it is we think that changing ourselves happens overnight, when we spent years becoming that kinda person. Changes need months, years to become reality, and when it gets hard isn’t the time to abandon those efforts, that’s when you double down and really give your all because the payoff is coming.

My hope to anyone who reads this, is that if you’re struggling with the ability to look yourself in the mirror, you realize that doing so only brings clarity to your life. It helps you grow and it will allow you to more quickly get over the pitfalls of failed endeavors in your life.