I was recently having a conversation with a couple of women in my office about Beyoncé’s Lemonade album and the expected rebuttal album from Jay and it was very interesting the conversation that broke out. What became very apparent is that though both women were Black and in their mid to late 20’s their opinions on the matter of marriage, cheating, and longevity in that marriage were very different. What was also clear is that their opinion of what a feminist is, was far from consistent.

While I was a little concerned at first because the conversation became very heated and the debate was spirited, I was actually enjoying the conversation also because I got to witness what it means to be black and diverse in this state, let alone the country. To hear a woman proud of herself and her feminist beliefs, go head to head with a woman who was a little more centrist but no less strong in her views of womenhood. I must also include that one woman is gay and the other is straight.

While, you might have thought that the gay woman would be the ultra feminist you would be wrong. The straight woman, maybe in part due to her diverse background and various places she called home, was very fervent in her belief that due to the stances, positions and manner of speaking the other woman had, that she wasn’t enough of a feminist. She thought that she was not truly pro Woman and actually was a bit of a prejudicial person at that.

She thought that she was a little sexist because she tended to agree with the notion that cheating in a marriage shouldn’t necessarily constitute divorce. In listening to both of them speak with passion about their positions that they care about, I could also tell that they both had been massively influenced based upon where they came from. The gay woman is from Texas, and carries the laid back disposition that is slightly judgmental but she is well aware of judgmental nature, though she still can befriend them.

The straight woman has a subconscious high degree of judgmental behavior, though in her argument she tries to say that because of her strong feminist view and humble upbringings she is not judgmental of anyone. It was truly a sight to behold. Two women giving every bit of truth and energy they have in a debate that started about marriage, infidelity and divorce and transformed into a battle of view. It was really amazing.