Month: January 2016

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Love is the Loser

You know as I’ve thought about my experiences and talks I’ve had with many a folks over the years, I have to say that people don’t seem to really understand why love always loses to lust. I’m gone take just a little time to break it down and help some understand why this concept is very true.

If you’ve ever been in love before or loved someone else with a passion, you know that if it didn’t work out the pain you went through was awful. The depression you felt may have been long lasting. The emotional scars you encountered were severe. Even, the physical torment may have had a lasting effect. Whether you caused the breakup or made the breakup happen, you know that love has an effect that takes time to recover from, but also takes a lot of energy to maintain.

Think about someone that you’ve been in love with before. How much effort did you put into loving them? What did you do to make sure that that person was happy and knew that you cared with all your might. The sacrifices that you made in order to keep your home happy but also to make sure that you both could grow together and coexist. Love makes you take a hard look at yourself and realize that while you might have a lot going for yourself, you can always improve, and you just might not be as good as you think you are.

Love makes you question some of things that you’ve always done because it doesn’t prove to be effective. Or, it makes you double down on what you do because you know that it works, but the person that you’re with just might not appreciate what you’re bringing to the table. Love makes you vulnerable and can expose your weaknesses and insecurities. Love makes you want to overextend yourself to make that special someone happy.

Lust disregards all of the previous things that I just said. Lust lets you enjoy the pleasures of the flesh without thinking about the consequences of your actions mostly. It allows you to go all out to get what you want and once you got it, you can either keep going back to the well or you can move on to a new quest to conquer because you’re not concerned with feelings, just the feeling of the ass or dick, pussy or mouth that’s gone give you that nut.

Lust is part of what attracts you to a person that can lead you to loving them. Lust lets you want to have the sexual encounters and play with a persons emotions because you just want to be satisfied. Lust says that you don’t need to care about what someone thinks about you or how someone will feel about you. Lust lets you put your conscious thoughts aside and really let your natural instincts and hormones take control.

See if you read this you see that lust is a lot shorter than love, because it takes so much less to make it happen. That’s why I always say that love is the most underrated thing in the world and it’s the most underappreciated feeling there is. Because to love someone is to sacrifice yourself for the greater whole and when you don’t know how that really works you find yourself mired in an endless circle of pain, hurt and fuckery. That’s why love always loses to lust in the short run, but in the long run, if you really know what it means to love someone, love will find it’s way to conquer.

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The Media is Still In Control

I’ve been watching the latest coverage of the Presidential political cycle and I’m continuing to see what I’ve been saying for months now.. The Media is picking our candidates for us, instead of the people. If you watch the media’s coverage of this election process, Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton, primarily, has been skewed to where the ratings are and not where the true folks are really running. The real truth is if you shut up and stop talking about the ignorance of Trump and you really let Bernie Sanders and his abilities stand out, you will see that the other candidates are legit.

From MSNBC to FOXNEWS to CNN and all the major television networks they cover only Donald Trump, Ted Cruz and Hillary Clinton. Bernice Sanders had to force his way into the mix because he had a message that Americans resonated with and made the media elites add him in their coverage. Jeb Bush was the early inevitable candidate so he got tons of coverage and when Ben Carson and Carly Fiorina had their heat they were receiving coverage. Now that they’ve cooled you can barely see them on the t.v. screen.

All the talk ahead of the Republican debate is on if Trump will decide to show up. Every show leads with coverage about Trump. Maybe if you have a major television show and you have enough ego, then you can run for President and say the most foolish things and win because you must be telling the truth because you speak with great bass and you don’t worry about the political correctness of what you say. Are we sure that’s the message and image that we want to portray about our election cycle. I think leaders around the world have to be laughing at this process. Donald Trump hasn’t put forth one tangible policy or initiative that he will govern by or from.

Hillary Clinton has only become one of the largest liars and flip floppers in American History. Was she a good Sec of State? Yes she was. Did she do a good job as the Junior Senator from New York? Yes she did. Is she the person I want to lead the country, I don’t know. Maybe she is better than Bernie on working with the other side. Maybe she has the foreign policy experience that is needed to be President, oops, never mind I forgot Barack Obama. But all the coverage is about whether or not she is doing the right things and whether or not the DNC should change the debate rules so she can show off her skills and pull away from Bernie Sanders.

I’m truly disgusted by the way the Media has taken the reigns of the Presidential nominating process and made it their personal toy. They are choosing what we talk about, who we talk about and which candidate is going to come out on top. Maybe the media is more powerful than ever and they try to say that they are the weakest. I really hope that for our sakes the other candidates really get a chance to shine and we have an election process that is robust. I’m tired of Trump and his arrogance and I’m annoyed with Hillary and her revelations of personality and independence. Please give me fresh and different, lord these old gizzers are wearing me out. Oh and so is the media.

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Is Daytime Really the Best?

There have been some studies out that suggest that daytime sex is the best time to have sex. Now I will give my thoughts on the different times of day that sex is usually had and will give my opinion on which I think is better and maybe some of you will either talk amongst your friends, or lover or whomever and have a good time with this topic.

So, let’s start with night time sex. I consider this time frame to be generally between 6p.m and 10p.m. I think that this time of night is one of the hardest and also less pleasing times to have sex during the day. If you ask me, most people are trying to get home from work or school, unwind from their day, figure out what to eat for dinner, catch up to friends and family and do any workouts, if you have any, for the day. This is the time that if you’re lucky enough to have sex during the week, I think, is more or less a stress reliever.

Also, lets be forreal, if you’re married and you got kids, how likely are you to really get any dick or ass at that time of night anyway? And that answer is not often. So I think that the truth of the matter is that time of night is not the best time to really get it in, LOL. I freely think that it’s a nice time to enjoy some sex but unless you’re single and/or a hoe, you not really looking for that time to be the right time. HA!

Now the three most common times that folks have sex is in the morning, the afternoon, and late night. Now we know what those time frames are generally speaking. Early morning you know 6a.m. until about 11a.m. and afternoon times usually about noon until maybe 3p.m. and late night, HAHA.. creeping hours baby midnight until about 4a.m. My thoughts are that early morning sex is like the best ever!! Why not wake up to amazing sex to start your day. Why not have an awesome orgasm to help your day get off to a wonderful start.

Now that midday time, I will freely admit is like sheesh a wonderful treat to have sex. HA! I completely agree that this time of the day is a really good time of day to have sex because one, fewer neighbors are home so you can be a little bit louder than what you normally would at home. I also think that the midday sex break can be a great way to help get through the work day and even if you have the day off, why have a little spontaneous early afternoon nookie to make the both of you feel better. I’m really torn between whether or not early morning sex or early afternoon sex is better.

The late night rendezvous, now this is the kind of sex that’s usually the quickest and dirtiest, but it can sometimes be very gratifying. I think that people who are parents and the young kids who gotta sneak around or the free and easy sex feigns like getting it in late at night. It’s the time that you can generally find more options because its not a very popular time that people are working. It is generally a time when folks are looking to get into something and have all the thoughts to make something happen. Ha, I think it’s really fun to have a late night sex act cuz you can go to sleep with a smile on your face, hopefully.

So folks tell me what you think, do you prefer that early morning sex, some midday good good, the evening time relaxing loving or the late night freak neak? Have the conversation, be forreal and if you got the guts drop a line on this blog and I promise I’ll respond.

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Is The Hate that Bad

So, I saw a tweet Stephen A Smith posted a couple days ago regarding fans of the Dallas Cowboys. To paraphrase Mr. Smith, he basically said that fans of Americas team are delusional and don’t have a real sense of reality when it comes to Professional Football because we support a team that is struggling to break through. Because we believe in the Quarterback who has had more success in Dallas than other QB since Aikman retired in 2000. And I know that’s not saying a whole lot, but the truth also is there are only about six QB’s in the league I’d take over Romo.

I understand that Smith is paid to be belligerent and have an opinion, but damn are you that much of a hater that you really have to call Cowboys fan ignorant, for lack of a better word? I know that since you’re a born and bread New Yorker that you are naturally predisposed to “hate” the Dallas Cowboys, but your line of commentary at times is a bit over the damn top. Maybe I’ll complain about your constant slurping of Aaron Rodgers nut sack. Or maybe how much he is in love with LeBron James. It’s kind of pathetic that Mr. Smith’s antics are pretty pedestrian and predictable. He laments how much he despises Jerry Jones and the Cowboys all the time.

He eats up Aaron Rodgers like he’s won three championships and been the best thing ever invented at the QB position. He treats LeBron James like he is the King of all King’s every time he talks about him. I think maybe we should question Stephen A and just how much he can be unbiased in his opinions when “his guys” are playing. He is staunch in his opposition to weed smoking because it’s banned in Professional Sports, but he seems to be ok with allowing a woman beater, Greg Hardy, to return and play in the league.

I mean listen, I think that every one deserves a second chance, but just don’t think that just because you said so, or because you defended the person, that it must be so. I happen to like Stephen A Smith, because a lot of times he does have a very insightful opinion on some of today’s modern topics in Sports, but when I see some of things he’s said about Hardy and the Cowboys nation. Sorry Stephen, just because your Giants have fallen on hard times, the Yankees can’t win a title without buying all of baseball and the Knicks… well, they’re the Knicks.. that doesn’t mean you should just release all your anger on folks that have nothing against you.

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Ignorance Ain’t Always Bliss

 

In my last blog I talked about the debate about the Academy Awards and the fight within some of the elite of Black Hollywood over whether to boycott the Awards show or not. One of the most recent voices to speak is Stacey Dash decided to open her mouth and say that we don’t need anything for Black people, we should just assimilate to the White established awards and push for our people to be included. I want to ask Stacey: How has that worked the over the past 50 years or so?

I was listening to V-103 this morning and Ryan Cameron said it best, “If we don’t what our history is, how the statements that we do?” Ms. Dash, do you know Black history? We need to stop saying that we don’t need organizations, television stations, awards shows and other things for our people. We do need these things because the White society that controls the mainstream awards and programs aren’t very reticent to invite us in. This is what I mean by Black people getting a lil bit too much of the White man’s money and forgetting that we needed these platforms.

I guess she forgot that when she was having guest roles on BET’s The Game and collecting checks from the network. Or maybe, she just wants to ignore the network since she’s had roles on major motion picture studios. I much rather we use this moment to come together and show the American public that we can put on a show just as good as the Academy Awards. Let’s not forget we have the Image Awards and the NAACP Awards to recognize our people for their outstanding performances.

Maybe we could spend some time promoting these types of shows and using the talent and time of our folks in Hollywood to make these Awards rival the Oscars and Golden Globe Awards. I guess if all of these founders of HBCU’s had followed Stacey Dash’s opinion we wouldn’t have Morehouse College and Spelman College. There would be no Hampton or Howard University. We wouldn’t have had Morris Brown College or FAMU, Bethune Cookman or Southern University. There may have never been a coach Eddie Robinson at Grambling State University. The Aggies of North Carolina A & T wouldn’t be here and there would be no Honda Battle of the Bands here in Atlanta at the Dome.

I’m sorry Ms. Dash this is one time where your thoughts may have been well intended, but the reality is BET, TV One, and all the Black owned and operated businesses and educational institutions are needed and damn it I’m proud to support them and to have attended one of the finest institutions in America.. Morehouse College.

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The White Debate

So the Academy Awards nominations came out and now for the second year in a row there aren’t any Black Actors or Actresses nominated and the outrage has begun. Not like the normal window dressing though this time. Now we have A List Hollywood celebs who have decided to Boycott this event and the shows host, Chris Rock, has been extremely critical of the folks who nominate the nominees yearly. That protest has led to a couple of personal battles that have erupted beneath the surface that makes all this very interesting, but it also calls attention to one of the fundamental problems with the Black Community.

As Spike Lee and Jada Pinkett-Smith make public their intent to skip the awards show, the later doing so in a very social media plea to Black America to unite together to force change. Meanwhile, Janet Hubert, the former Aunt Vivian on the Fresh Prince of Bel-Air, came out and delivered a scathing rebuke of Jada and Will, who hadn’t said anything yet. She indicated that their disgust of the snub by the Academy was nothing and that there were more important prejudicial issues going on in society that really needed public rallying.

She indicated that Will declined to use his power as star of their hit t.v. show to negotiate raises for all those involved with the show, mind you this was a 20 something year old actor who was now in unfamiliar territory. This was a kid who knew nothing about that type of power and was a young kid trying to grow up. She also mentioned that the Smith’s could have used their money and production company to further more Black careers, than just using their company to produce themselves, their friends and family members.

She raped Will and Jada over the coals and made it seem as though she was still very bitter because Will didn’t take up arms with her more than 20 years ago. While I don’t disagree with her base principle, I do think that maybe it could have been done a little better as to not be as messy and distracting from a truly valid point.. Hollywood is still really white.

Why is that one, it takes for us to have these type of events before we come together as a people to revolt against the machine? Two, why is it that once we do try to take a stand, rather than band together and form the most powerful army we can, we instead beat each other up and then bitch about shit from 20 years ago. I’m sorry Janet, get yo tight draws out your ass and shut the fuck up. I’m sorry bicker when the shit is done, but right now damn it, it’s time to band together. But that’s where White people have us beat, we can’t stop fighting each other to get what we want. They know how to turn us against each other without even trying.

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To Honor King

Yesterday we paid honor to a man who stood for the cause of Colored People. We stopped to pay tribute who gave his life to further the advancement of Black People. We paused to look back at the path that we’ve traveled to get to where we are today. All of the blood shed, the tears cried, the humility taken, the beatings and murders administered. We are a people that have been belittled in this country since the beginning of time. We have been counted as 3/5 of a person and less than equal for generations on end.

Back in the 1960’s it was the March for Civil Rights. Trying to get equal rights for African Americans and Women. Trying to desegregate the South and make it legal for all races of people to attend the same schools. It was to protect Black lives and advance America as a nation. Today, we see the Black Lives Matter movement and it’s based upon similar principles. To remind the world that Black Lives Matter just as much as White and Latino lives.

We are living in a time where Police abuse and Judicial prejudice are on the rise. We are living in a time where we are comfortable electing a egotistical asshole to be President of the United States, over pragmatic approaches of Kasich or possibly Marco Rubio. We are living in a time when Supreme Court Justices are wanting to strike down Affirmative Action and want to gut the rights of American Unions. We are watching as many corporations are recording record profits and refusing to reinvest that in their people with raises in pay, but rather giving the money to those same CEO’s that already make millions of dollars a year.

The equality that King and Malcolm and others fought and died for is being stripped away slowly but surely. States tightening up the their Voter ID requirements. States trying to suppress the Colored vote by redistricting us into smaller, more marginalized districts. Whites realizing that their majority is steadily shrinking doing everything within their power to make sure their Might is on display. We are existing at a time when those around the country have no respect for our first Black President and First Lady if they don’t agree with their politics.

The honest truth is we should all be our Brothers Keeper. White and Black, Asian and Jewish. All people inbetween need to be aware that if we don’t protect each other and watch out for each other we will be left alone. I think one of the biggest lessons that we learned from this movement is the power of togetherness. When we can bind together in the face of tremendous odds and overcome. Please people I don’t care what side of the spectrum you sit on, if you really care about your country then you will take offense to the vitriol and disdain in our politics. You will oppose the injustices and inequalities we have in this country and work together to a solution.

It’s really sad that Dr. King’s speech is still applicable to todays time. Yes, we have come a ways from the old days of Jim Crow and all of that. But if you take a hard look we are still in so many ways trapped in the 1960’s. We’re still fighting for freedom and the hate that exists needs to end. We are one America and one People. Let’s show the world just how great America can truly be.

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Bernice Said It Best..

I was listening to a snippet of Bernice King’s speech yesterday from Dr. King’s service and she said something that was spot on, and if you’ve been reading my blog it’s been the underlying tone of all my writing about this particular subject.. If we don’t wake up and fast we will end up with a Reality TV star who knows nothing about running a nation being the President of the United States. We will have someone who is using the most powerful nation in the free world as another “Project” and “Toy” for him to play with.

I was watching as Sarah Palin endorsed him today for President and I must tell you that I’m just a little bit perplexed as to why she is up there stumbling over her words to endorse Mr. Trump. She says that she is anti-establishment, and I must give her credit, she has been steadfast in the Tea party movement. But, please lets not forget she was the V.P. pick for John McCain when he ran in 2008. Ummm.. that’s the biggest Establishment candidate in Republicans circles that you can have.

She tried to articulate that Trump would “Fire” people, a line from his former television show, as a means to restore American Might in the world. I’m sorry is a television show or the fuckin’ race for President of the United States. I’ve absolutely had enough of the media peddling this man for the past year plus now. I agree that some of the other candidates vying for President aren’t the most charismatic, but they are all far more qualified for the title of President than Trump.

This is probably one of the most important elections that we’ve had since 2008 we elected Barack Obama President. This is a chance to cement the legacy of Obama and have a President who will continue to forward the Progressive agenda, or turn back to a party that really wants to separate classes and make sure states rights and Big Business are supreme to the best interest of the country as a whole.  Seeing Palin up there stammering through her words and trying to make the case for Trump makes me further know just how critical this election will be.

America please wake up and realize that we need to take a long look at all of the candidates running for President, we need to make the best informed decision possible.

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Another Blow

As it’s no secret that I am an avid supporter of President Barack Obama, I must say that the news this morning that we got four American back from Iran in exchange for six of theirs, I must say that I thought to myself..Damn it he did it again. With a smile I have to think how much swag Barack Obama must be walking around with these days.

As I sit and have conversations with folks who say that he’s out of touch because his final State of the Union address was not a doom and gloom speech, I try to remind them that if he used that speech for that he would have been vilified. There is no doubt that there is significant work to do domestically and abroad. But, lets also be very clear, President Obama has made some gutsy moves and quite a few of them have paid off big time.

Now I know that a lot of Republicans and uptight Conservatives won’t see it that way. They will find a way to skew it so that he doesn’t get the credit that he and his Secretary of State deserve. They will find a way to make sure that they continue to focus on the things that Obama hasn’t done, but you know that’s just par for the course for this President. He has had to live in a bubble where his accomplishments are diminished because most of the White elitist that operate in Washington D.C. and in the media don’t really that man to succeed, nor have a legacy that withstands the test of time.

It has been great to watch this man navigate through all the bull shit to continue to deliver monumental moments like this and others in his Foreign Policy agenda. I don’t agree with all the choices he’s made as Commander in Chief, but I can see how his efforts and policies have helped to make this country better. He is using Diplomacy first to engage the world before using American military might. But as he said in his address, if anyone thinks that he isn’t strong on Foreign Policy ask Osama Bin Laden and some of the other terrorist leaders.

That’s right you can’t, because they’re dead. So as another awesome headline hit the television and print media today, I think we have to be so mindful that while Republican Presidential candidates distort his record, just look at all his accomplishments with an unbiased eye and you will see he is on a roll. Keep givin’ em hell Obama!

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Killing Em Hard

As I was watching the North Carolina versus NC State game today, one of the legends in broadcasting, Dick Vitale, said something that really sp0ke to my ear. He talked about how easily as a society we give money to schools for sports facilities to be built, but when it comes to giving to a truly worthy cause it’s like we forget how to give money. Cancer is taking lives hand over fist and it’s being discriminant to age, race, gender, class or any other demographic breakdown you choose to use.

It has taken the lives of some of the most famous individuals in the world and it has also touched every day people. It touches us all in some way or the other. None of us are immune to having that diagnosis one day, and I’m sure at some point in our lives we will know someone who has been afflicted with this hellacious illness. It’s really sad though that it takes having to beg and bled folks for money before we step up as a nation to address this killer.

See we can protest violence and heap praise on our star athletes who retire, but we can’t join forces to stamp out this deadly disease that’s killing millions. All types of cancer are on the rise in this country and around the world. We are the nation that is suppose to have the most intelligent and advanced scientists and medical personnel. But, I want to know when will someone galvanize them to come up with solutions to curing these awful illnesses.

Me personally, I’ve had teachers stricken with cancer and even lost one teacher because of this beast. My grandma has had several bouts with the monster and my first ever boyfriend is a cancer survivor. I really feel like anything that we can do as a people to draw attention to, give our money, time and resources to, in order to find a way to eradicate this killer is our obligation as people. Let’s partner with the rest of the world and figure out how to take natural medicine with pill and radiation medication to get rid of this shit.

Maybe I need to keep writing about it, in hopes that people will read this and enough conversation will go on in your homes that we can figure out how to take all of our collective efforts to contribute to the greater cause. America and the world we must find the cures and make them available. The lives of those we love and maybe even your own, will depend on it.