Month: December 2015

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My First Time

The kinda person I am, I try not to be very hypocritical with what I say when advising people in comparison to what I’ve done. Let me talk a lil about this subject in my heading. As it is not a secret I’m gay. But before I came out a long time ago, HEHE, I did have sex with a female too.. Or should I say multiple females.

I remember the first time I had sex with a girl and damn sure remember the first time I had sex with a dude. Both fucking and gettin’ fucked. I can remember that at the time it was everything and thinking back on it now, I still feel the same way. While there are times I wished that I would have waited longer before my first sexual rendezvous with a dude, I was glad I got it out the way when I did, because it honestly allowed me to be free to explore sex and determine what I liked and what I didn’t like.

Now that I have been in the role of “Father” for the past decade, I don’t have conversations with my kids or those I’ve mentored over the years where I tell them not to have sex or to hold it until they find that magical someone to be their first. Reason being: that is not a true reality as much anymore. Teenagers are horny and experimentative and want to experience the acts of sex because of what they see on Porn and hear from their friends who are sexually active.

Especially in the gay community, losing your virginity has become a novelty thing and not so much a trophy to hang on to and a trophy to cherish when the nigga takes it. We are now in an age where sex is just that sex. And folks want to have the experience of different partners, different sizes(length and width) and also different roles. Tops try to bottom and vice versa. I personally think it’s a very smart thing to do because you have to know what you like and what you don’t like.

Those who hold those traditional preaching of holding out for that special someone, I respect where you come from, why you feel that way and the thought that goes into that advice. But, the truth is if you didn’t practice that and you came out fine, don’t try to make someone go down a path that you yourself chose not go follow. Everyone is different and should be allowed to decide when they wanna give it up and who they wanna give it up to.

Some people just love sex from any early age and never grow out of it. Some love it early and as they grow older slow down so they can have something meaningful and make sure their dick and ass ain’t worn out or infected. Some do it in reverse. Lite sex early but lots of it later on. I think that all of these options and all options in between make sense and should be explored until you find what works for you.

As for me, well let’s just say I’ve had my fare share of experiences and I know what I like and what I don’t. But, let me also say that having sex with one person, and it being passionate and amazing is damn fun and pleasurable. I wonder what folks think about this? What was  your first time like? What was your sex life like? Did you grow out of wanting sex all the time? Did you not want earlier in your life but as you got into your 20’s and 30’s did it pick up? Did you stay a low key sex person? Are you an undercover freak?

Speak to me people. Lets talk

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The Jordan Effect

Funny thing happened yesterday, Nike decided to give a lifetime  contract, worth more than $500 million dollars to LeBron James. Listen, while the rest of America is trying to figure out they can their wages to increase even 5%, this cat just got a deal that will pay him more money than 85% of Americans will ever make.

Can we not stop and take stock of that for a second? I’m all for Capitalism and spending your dollars to promote your brand, but damn is he really worth that kind of money? Then I have to remember that the other superstars of this era have signed enormous contracts in that general ball park over the past  offseason or two.

LeBron, KD,  Big Game James and others you can thank one man for those kinds of deals on shoes.. Michael Jordan. Yes, the king of the court was really the man who set the explosion of shoe companies trying to grab players and give them these max deals. He was the man who made  brand and has kept that brand popular, relevant and extremely profitable for the past 30 years.

Yes, think about that for a minute. Since 1984 His Royal Airness has been making shoes that have made people go crazy for three decades and there appears to be no slowing down of folks buying his shoes. He even has Russell Westbrook and Chris Paul in their own customized Jordan shoes. How much of a mogul and smart businessman must he and his people be?

He owned an NBA franchise, continues to have a partnership with a company that makes him money hand over fist and in my mind, someday will be the face of the NBA with his moniker being the NBA logo. Michael was the revolutionary for basketball.

Yes, there have been folks who helped to contribute to the popularity of basketball athletes, but there really can be no mistakes that from 1984 until his retirement in the 2000’s Michael Jordan was really the NBA. While others in the league made their namesake and built their legacies, he was cementing his and laying the foundation for his next chapter.

While he has yet to achieve the same success as an Owner and executive right now, I’m reminded back to when Jordan came into the league. Early in his career he could score better than anyone, but without the proper support system he was an early exit from the playoffs or a nonplayoff team all together. Once he got the right coach and cast he became the best in the game and the rest is history. I truly believe that he will figure it out and while he may not win 6 rings, he will win a few during his tenure.

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You Prejudiced Bigot.. I mean Republican Presidential Candidate

You know I’ve had a few conversations over the past few weeks and months about this current crop of Presidential candidates on both sides of the aisle, but most importantly the Republican side; and definitely their policies, the lack thereof and their ungodly disdain for our President and the freedoms they claim to support.

Let me perfectly clear, I dislike everything about Donald Trump and every other Republican Presidential candidate, except John Kasich’s positions on Obamacare. I think that it’s quite annoying that all the media really wants to do is pump air into the Trump campaign. I know some may say that with this blog talking about him and getting others to read it that I’m propping up his candidacy as well. I say that your stupid if you think that.

I do no talk about him just to shine a light on him;  my efforts are to allow others to read and objectively and subjectively, LOL, understand that this man is playing the American public for a fool and if he is serious about running for President with these outlandish proposals and ideals as a candidate, this country is will in a world of hurt if he somehow finds a way to win.

I hope that we understand that the United States of a America is a nation of immigrants from all over the world. There is not a single person here who should be abdicating that we ban Muslims from entering this country because of one incident in America and the incident in Paris. I think anyone who is stupid enough to say you support Trump or agree with his proposal, you must be a bigot yourself, or you must not remember that your family is not “All American.”

What if another President said we will ban the Jewish people or the Asian community or ban Africans or Latinos from entering the United States. Lest we not forget that the individual who went on the killing rampage in Colorado just the week prior to the California massacre, was not a Muslim. He was an American who is Pro Life. Now don’t get me wrong. I love folks who are Pro Life, but lets make sure we understand that Pro Life doesn’t just apply to unborn babies. That applies to all of human life.

That means that when an individual or individuals shoot and kill innocent victims because of their beliefs, that is a violation of the Pro Life movement. That is an act of terrorism too. See we seem to only want to classify terrorism acts as those perpetrated by folks from foreign nations, nationalities or religions. How stupid can we be?

You want to know why we can’t truly defeat ISIL or ISIS? It’s because every time something like what happens in Colorado or Paris happens, ignorant ass Politicians and Candidates want to politicize the issue and make ridiculous, asinine statements like banning Muslims or calling a religion  Radical.

Why the fuck is that every time something happens that “supports” Republican mantras they run to the extreme? And the blowhards in the Republican media that want to support this foolishness are just as culpable for the race bating as the candidates promoting it. I want people to Google the statement Trump has made about other nationalities, religions and ethnicities.

He has called for all illegal immigrants to be returned to their countries. He called Mexicans rapists and criminals. He has called for a ban on Muslims into America. He has called for a rejection of all Syrian refugees trying to flee the daily war and violence in their nation. But, he won’t speak ill of the Americans who do dastardly deeds to other Americans in the name of their cause or more importantly, Trump’s and other candidates causes.

Ted Cruse is no different than Trump. His ignorant ass makes the same outlandish statements as Trump because they both want to use American fear to their advantage and ride it all the way to the White House. I hope that we realize that while we have had isolated incidents, as far as, terrorism is concerned, we have been protected from any further attacks on this country. Folks lets face it: President Barack Obama has kept this country safe, avoided sending troops into battle in mass and has rebuilt some key American alliances.

Is there more work to do? Yes. But has this man done his job? Damn right. I’m really sick of tall these hawkish Republican people who say that because the President didn’t have a scowl on his face or ignite a new war by saying he’s sending hundreds of thousands of troops back into the Middle East for a ground war and air war, that he doesn’t have a plan.

Lemme ask a question: When President 43 tried that approach what the fuck happened? I’ll wait…?? When Obama used his approach, we caught and killed top militant leaders and killed Bin Laden. Never forget Obama is the reason that happened, not Trump, Cruse or any other Republican.

How do you feel about the hot air given to Trump and not to the real candidates? What are your feelings on all of the stuff said and happening? Talk to me..

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A Country At War

I know you think this post is about our fighting on foreign soil, but if that’s what you think.. Oh boy are you so damn wrong. I’m absolutely about to unload on the war on home soil and this will spare no rod.

Have you taken a look at what’s going on in our own backyard? Have you paid attention to the killing in the streets, by civilians and more importantly by law enforcement? Have you seen the mass murders taking place left and right in this country? Years ago we had the Newtown 26, where 26 children and school officials were killed in a mass murder.

Today, in California, we have the San Bernardino 14. Got damn it, what do we have to do in order to finally get these spineless, gutless, scared Politicians to do the damn job they were sent to Congress to do: Serve the people of the United States of America. My God, how many people have to run through the streets, cities and states of America with automatic weapons killing innocent Americans? How many damn times so we have to hear the bullshit line “Let us pray for the people affected” by Politicians so in bed with the NRA that they get fucked by them more than their spouses?

I’m so sick and damn tired of hearing Republicans speak that dumb shit about the reason these incidents take place is because they are no “no gun” zones. When the fuck will you ignorant ass people wake up and realize the reason this shit keeps happening is because there are too many fucking guns on the street? When will you realize that because we are so quick to vehemently defend gun rights, that we don’t take common sense steps to protect us from people who should not be buying guns?

Who the hell really believes that we need assault weapons in the hands of people who want to do harm to people, for whatever reason they come up with in their sick and twisted minds. We keep talking about how we need to take out ISIS and all this other shit, but we need to enact gun laws and change our ways of thinking in our society that says guns are the answer to the problem.

The freest country in the world is at war with itself because it can’t separate itself from a damn gun lobbyist that thinks if we try to remove unnecessary weapons off the streets and place sensible restrictions on who can get a gun, that somehow we are infringing on the rights of gun owners.

Damn it America get this partisan bullshit out of your head. Please realize this is not about Democrats or Republicans. This is not about Black or White, Gay or Straight. This is about America. A nation that’s suppose to pride itself on being the best but we can’t agree to take care of each other.

This is not about me railing against gun ownership, because truth is, I’m a liberal Democrat that is a supporter of an individuals right to own and carry a gun. But even saying that, I damn sure am in favor of stricter laws on who can get a gun and the background checks being needed before you can purchase a gun. America we need to band together because the time is now for us to say enough is enough.

How many times do we need to see mass shootings on t.v. before we get tired of seeing this shit? Who needs to die before there is action taken by the spineless politicians sitting in Washington D.C.? Will we ever say enough is enough damn it? Please America let’s join together with one voice and say no more. We need to stop saying it’s too soon to talk about this issue. We need to stop saying it’s not right to politicize this issue.

The honest truth is we have been too damn late for years but it’s never to late to make a change. The voice of the many need to be heard. No more silence. Let’s make sure these folks in D.C. know we won’t tolerate this anymore.

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The End of True Dominance

Growing up I was privileged to watch the most dominant players in their sports, in their eras. They were all-time greats, not just specialized greats. They were players who transformed their sports and made things look so simple and easy.

We are seeing the end of the era of dominance and transformation right now. With the retirement of Michael Jordan, Derek Jeter,  Jeff Gordon, Kobe Bryant, the death of Dale Earnhardt Sr. and the pending retirement of Tiger Woods, we are seeing the end of what was transformational dominance.  If you take each of these men individually in their sport you truly realize how amazing they were.

Now we have LeBron James, Jimmy Johnson, pick your baseball player, find a football player and no real tennis player, in my view, aside from Serena Williams, but she’s not retiring yet. All respect given to these individuals, but I’m sorry LeBron is not an all-time great to me. The era he plays in today is bitch basketball. Jimmy Johnson truly is the closest thing to revolutionizing NASCAR right now and Serena Williams, well is Serena and when she retires she will go into this pantheon of players I am speaking of.

I think it was such a treat to have been able to watch the greatest player in the game, Michael Jordan, his heir apparent, Kobe Bryant play the game of basketball for over twenty years. To have watched Derek Jeter and how he played the game and inspired so many players who were taller than the normal short stop to want to play the position as and excel. To watch how Dale Sr. before his passing was absolutely dominant and made NASCAR what it is today. And watch his heir Jeff Gordon dominate the sport for so long was truly awesome.

What more can be said about Tiger Woods other than during his prime he absolutely was the best player that ever existed. He won at a clip that was insane. He dominated the game like no one has ever done before. He made the prize money in Golf reach these crazy numbers that they are today. He was partly responsible for the inception of the Fed Ex Playoff system. He was the reason that all the Golfers of today have these major endorsement deals. Before Tiger, Golf was an old white man’s sport with very little notoriety beyond the old greats.

The truth is if you are lucky to be around to watch these players who transformed their sports you get to appreciate what athletic greatness is all about. One thing that I don’t do though with these players, is make them a deity. They are great athletes and they have helped to make many, many people very rich and famous and allowed for millions to live comfortable lives, but they are human just like the rest of us and when we forget that, that’s when we glorify them for the wrong reasons.

I’m sure that many may not agree with the group that I put together, but this 31 year old can only go off his own eyes and gauge of athletes he has seen in his lifetime. For me the folks listed above are in the Mount Rushmore of their sports and I’m sure at some point there will be someone else who joins that group as their always is, but I truly think we may have seen the end of that dominance in the sports that these respective players played and retired from.

My hats off to all of these folks for being the absolute best at what you do and the games you’ve played will not be the same without you, but undoubtedly they will go on and new legends will be made.

 

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Fears of Love

You know as I’ve had time to sit back and reflect on the recent things that I’ve gone through the past couple months, I have a new found appreciation for how much loving a person can make someone live in fear at the same time.

I know that to some that may sound crazy or may not make sense, but if you really understand what love is all about it can make anyone’s inner demons and insecurities come out because you fear that the person that you love would leave you if they know your truth. I think that this issue is a growing problem in this society because so many people aren’t comfortable enough with themselves to truly love someone.

As I look out towards the truth even surrounding folks close to me, I see how much past pains and hurt have led them to have such a fear of loving with all their might. See, they feel as if that something bad will happen or they will be heartbroken or embarrassed for loving someone with all that’s inside of them. I think that what people do is get so caught up in not only their past pains, but also the pains and trials of their friends.

Someone really needs to talk to me and tell me why what someone else went through in their own relationship is affecting you in your own personal relationship. No two people are the same and no two people go through the same experiences. While, you may experience similar things because you get treated a similar way by different folks. the truth is each relationship is its own entity and no one should be basing their love life off that of those around them. It is a falsehood that makes one think that they will truly gain their knowledge about how to handle their own affairs from hearing the issues of a friend or family members love pitfalls.

The other thing that I think is absolutely ridiculous, is that everyone wants to spend their time fixing the love life of someone else but they don’t truly take enough time to fix their love life or fix themselves. One day people will realize that when you are always trying to fix someone else’s relationship, your relationship suffers because all you do is bring the problems of their relationship to your own, if you’re not strong enough to separate the two.

Love is rough and requires the utmost attention and focus. You must realize that to love is to be selfless. To love is to give yourself to that one who you trust with all your might. To love is to understand that your home must be in lock step before you work on another home. Love means that when things happen you deal with them and let them go. Love means that you learn to compromise when needed and be firm when required. All of these things that love is and requires is what makes the fear so strong. Because we get so caught up in roles and positions and who should pay what and who should control who, that we forget about the love. Hence, the fear that always hovers over the relationship.

Are you in fear? Or are you in love?

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Political Pussy’s

Yes I know that my title is bit vulgar, but if you know me, then you know that’s just who I am. I write with great imagery and color. Now let’s get to what this title is all about.

Once again after a controversial shooting of a young, unarmed, black man, we see government officials make a decision based on the outcry after the fact and not the facts before the outrage. Someone needs to tell me why the fuck Rahm Emanuel didn’t review this prior to the dash cam being released and the public being outraged? Why, again, do we see politicians hiding behind the “independent investigation” bullshit, instead of having the balls to fire people and make a statement.

I think that Americans all over the country are tired of the corrupt police departments covering for their own people over and over again. Let me again be clear, I have a great respect for all of the men and women who wear the uniform to protect and service the communities in the United States of America. But let me also be clear: Dirty cops fuck it up for those who truly go out here every day to make a difference and protect us from dangerous people.

We are a nation that likes to hold civilians accountable for their actions, but we don’t want to hold officers of the law who are breaking those very laws they took an oath to defend. Also, these sneaky ass folks holding office who are covering their own asses by covering up the wrong doings of some of these dirty cops need to be punished. I think that one of the great problems of our time is that we don’t take our duties to vote and be aware of what our elected leaders are and aren’t doing.

We must accept the fact that we must be responsible to our fellow man and hold everyone accountable for their actions. It is a necessity. And I’m sorry if the police officers and unions are uncomfortable because their “comfort” is being challenged, because we are tired of the endless and pointless killings of unarmed and innocent people, then do the work to clean up your ranks and maybe the public wouldn’t be clamoring for heads to role.

Lets all wake up and do our jobs because when we all do our parts we are a better nation and a better people.