You know in everything that exists in life I always struggle to understand why so many people have to be so prideful in everything that they  do. Why do men always have to feel like just because someone may be more experienced, have more diversification in their lives that they’re always trying to tell you what to do instead of wanting to help guide someone thru the pit falls of life?

As I’ve had the chance to watch different types of gay men interact with each other, and mostly my own interactions, I have come to realize that a man’s pride is his downfall as much as it’s his strength. I can only imagine what the Black community would be like if instead of rejecting help and not listening to those that came before, they took the information and used to prevent themselves from self destructing. Why can’t it be a situation that older men who date younger men truly want to give their knowledge to their younger lover, while that lover gives vibrance to the older man.

I think the relationship between my pastor and his partner is amazing. You can tell that his partner uses the knowledge and expertise that my pastor has to help him grow and continue to mature in areas where he is weak. And conversely, it’s very clear to see that my pastor’s young partner helps to keep him invigorated and youthful. If we all took that approach that young and old doesn’t have to be for just financial gain maybe we could be a better group of people.

Why is that just because the man is older than his lover, that he can’t learn some things from him pr her too? Why do we always think that just because we have friends or co-workers who are older that they are the only ones capable of giving advice to those who are younger? What I understand is that young people have a perspective. One that is unique and more common now days, is filled with very difficult challenges and in some cases dire situations.

Maybe we need to all stop being so prideful in ourselves and thinking that we are the only ones who have been through something. Maybe we need to realize that when someone is trying to give us information that can be helpful, it’s meant to be just that. It’s not meant to be antagonizing or belittling. How many times has someone you know and have respect for offers advice on something going on in your life and you jump to the defensive end of the stick, solely because your pride says no one can tell you about your story.

Even the greats of our time needed someone to help them get there. Why do we only seem to think that thought or concept applies to those figures talked about in history or seen on tv? When do we come to the light and see that we need someone sometimes to help us manage the obstacles in life? Get out your own damn way and stop fucking thinking that you have all the answers. Because the truth is if you knew every thing, you wouldn’t go through the shit that you do.

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