Month: January 2015

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Thru Thick and Thin

As everyone knows my blogs are always in some way a snapshot of my life. It’s either something I’m currently going through, have already been through or a recall of something a friend or loved one has gone through.

This blog is probably one of the most relate-able blogs for all sexes, ages, races alike. Does anyone know what it is to be true, real, genuine friends? I have had to sit back and take a look at the folks that are around me to evaluate if I’m surrounded by the right people. To ask myself the question if I was to get into any kind of issue, do I have at one or two, maybe three, people who are willing to be there no matter what the situation..?

See, when you know that you are and have always been a friend that sticks with someone in their good days and bad days, you feel that you should be able to have that same loyalty given back to you. And when you start to think about the situations in your life that are important and you realize that there are some who always find a way to be there no matter what. Whether it’s sunny and nice, cold and brittle or wet and sloppy.

Then you have those so-called friends, who will always find a way to skip out, give you an excuse, ignore your phone calls or just simply disappear. see when it’s time for you to get your friends attention and their support for anything that puts focus on you, then they become like leaves on trees and sway away with the breeze.

Unfortunately, I know about having those kinds of phony friends and have occasionally had to give the benediction to those who just didn’t exemplify any true actions of being a friend. Its crazy to think that “friends” will be ready to soak in the Tea and gossip about the drama, they will tell you all about their issues and cry a river to you when someone gives them a dose of what they give others, but the minute its time to switch the light onto someone else, that’s when the reverse lights come on, and the sounds of a big truck backing up and speeding off, is in reality a “friend”.

I’ve always said don’t be afraid to remove those that mean you no good, and only leach off your energy, spirit, knowledge and occasionally your pockets, but don’t bring nothing to the table and never have I been more serious in my life than now.

Change the circle in order to make the circle better.

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Grace, Mercy and Faithfulness

First and foremost I would to wish you a Happy New Year! I hope all the things you want for yourself this year comes true.

Now, I was sitting in church this Sunday when my pastor preached about Grace, Mercy and Favor. But he likened Favor to Faithfulness. As he dug into his sermon and began expounding on these words, their interceding points and it they tie into you being favored in your life, I began to take stock of my life and realize that I have been and am highly favored.

When I think about the situations I’ve put myself in because of stupid decisions, rushing to be with who I thought was best, or being young and dumb, I realize that it was not me who got me through and subsequently out of those situations, it was nothing but Gods’ favor. His mercy to pull me out of my own mess, his grace to not hold me in disdain for the foolish choices I made.

See when you have been in situations where you shouldn’t have gotten out alive. When you faced death in the face and lived to tell about with a sound frame of mind. When you can call your mama and just say hi or even to talk about anything at all you are favored. When you get to lay down in your own bed, under your own roof, with your own clothes, eating your own food and watching your own tv, you are favored.

I am often times conflicted about this because I’m human just like anyone else, and when I am in the midst of going through a trial and a challenge, I tend to sometimes forget that every issue I face is only building my story and making me a better person. I forget that all things will generally work for your good if you let it.

That may be explanation for the reason why I have always been so willing to share my life, the stories, the memories, the tragedies, the heartache, because I know that there is someone whose life will be saved, someone whose views will be re-imaged if only because they talked to someone who’s been in their shoes and is on the other side of the struggle.

I dare you to take some time and stop bitching and complaining, stop whining about what you don’t have, stop sweatin’ the things someone else has, and just think about how much you have and how fortunate you are; then I bet you, you will say Thank God, or whomever you pray to.