Month: August 2014

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Take Me to Bed…

No matter how many times I have this conversation, I’m always amazed at how many people try to act as though they don’t have an inner freak, or like they’re just good wholesome people who’ve never danced with their freaky side. I think that while there definitely should be a balance to how much you allow yourself to just be a sexual being without looking for that person to share the most special of times with, there is definitely value in just letting the freak be free.

I know people who come in on both sides of this equation. I know there are the conservatives who say that sex should only be had when you’re married, or at the very least are in love with the person, or engaged to the individual. But I also know quite a few people who are on the opposite end and believe that in order to become knowledgeable about your body and to know what you like, you need to experience a few sexual encounters. i guess the question that has to be asked is how much is too much? And also, is it okay to just be about sex and not worry about the feelings involved.

I come in somewhat split on this topic because I’ve done both of these things. I’ve been in a committed relationship and given all of me, in many different ways, to just one person and I’ve also been that sexual freak, who has enjoyed having sex and not worrying about the feelings associated with it. I also wonder would it be considered too much if you just had a couple sex friends; you know where those are they only one or two people that you are sexing on a regular basis?

Then there is the nympho who feels like they have to get it all the time and if they don’t then they’re missing out on something. While one theory says the promiscuous person is one who lacks self esteem and love of themselves, I would tend to submit that sometimes it’s just a case of that person wanting to enjoy the pleasures of sex and not have to worry about whether or not they gotta wake up next to the person tomorrow.

My honest opinion is this, if you’ve never lived a little and experienced a good time with casual sex, maybe you should. At least that way when do get with someone that you wanna build with, you know how you want to be pleased in bed, you know whether you’re a traditional sex person or a kinky sex person.Hell you know if you like em big or small, long or fat or all of the above..

#pillow talk for the night…

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All Gold isn’t real Gold…

With the sudden and tragic suicide of Robin Williams, the conversation surrounding depression and the depths of it’s stranglehold on a person is back in the conversation. We are now having that conversation again about what really needs to be done and how much time needs to be spent with the individual trying to get the person truly mentally healthy. As much as I feel for his family and friends and anyone who knew him well, this situation had hit home for me well before Mr. Williams sadly took his own life. 

One of my dear friends of fourteen years decided that he could no longer bear the burdens of life and took himself away with fatal gun shot to the head. The news reached me and it hurt my soul, because at last I talked to him and had gotten updates from family about him, he was doing well, working and gearing up for joining the military. So it was truly a shock to my system to learn that things deteriorated so quickly that he chose to end his life, instead of fighting for survival and getting ahead in life.

The reality is the unknown ones who take their lives never make the big headlines like the superstars who take their lives; however, the common thread among them all is a deep sense of worthlessness, incomplete, alone, and a deep sense of despair. I hope people understand that this issue is an epidemic that happens much more often than people realize. In the African American community this has been an issue for decades, in the LGBT community it still plagues us as one of the most common forms of death that befalls us. 

I challenge every one to take a little time and make sure someone you care about, or even someone that you might not know so well, is okay. Because you never know the impact you can have on a person just by checking on them, talking to them, engaging them and letting them know that no matter how worthless they think they are there is someone who cares, even if it’s just a little bit, it can save lives.

#My brothers/sisters keeper…

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The Power of the Shield…

As the stories continue to pour out about police aggression, and negligent cops using excessive, deadly force, I’m forced to wonder if in some parts of this great country if we aren’t reverting back to internal conflicts between law enforcement and the community it’s tasked with protecting. More  prudently are the cops with the shields targeting the young, Black men once again? Have we reached a point, again, where the African American community must come together to reject the tyrannical approach taken to justice by some of Americans enforcement officials.

While I will never subscribe to the notion that this country has completely rid itself of the rouge, dirty cop; I’m also not going to admit that we have come a long way from the days when cops were fixing crime scenes and arresting who they want, able to plant evidence when they felt like it. No, these are not the norm anymore the situation that happened in Missouri or the one in New York City, but it sure is startling to see the shear abuse of power, and the lack of accountability being taken by those responsible.

I am disheartened any time I see someone being physically abused, but from the posts on Facebook, to the reported stories of late, it has been a rash of White cop on Black person violence and that is where I’m particularly dismayed, You see I am not nieve to the fact that there is still a culture that exists amongst law enforcement, that believes my people are guilty first and proven innocent, instead  of how the justice system is designed of innocence until guilt is proven. 

So maybe instead of rushing to assume that we re in a post racial, post prejudical society, simply because we elected the first African American President twice no less, let’s realize that we have entered the next phase in the fight for equality for the African American community. Protesting is one avenue, boycotting is another. And I frankly believe all these options should be on the table pending a just outcome to this horrible tragedy. Let’s remember the job of the police in every state is to serve and to protect.

My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to the family of these victims who have died in needless, and senseless aggression from the NYPD and Missouri PD. Though this gets at the heart of the tension between the races, the truth is when any race is victimized by very group that is charged with protecting the people they are hurting.

#Justice must be served

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Do you like it long or fat..?

A return to the dark side as I come down for the night.. I have a strange curiousity to know what kind of dick people like. Now, if you take at face value it means just what it says. To specify though, what I’m getting is do you like a long dick or a fat dick? Maybe you like the combination of the two.. a long, fat dick.. HAHA

I think there are benefits of them both and in some cases, some unintended benefits or consequences of having either dick. If you like sucking dick, the long dick may serve you well because you don’t really have to worry about opening your mouth as wide to get the dick slurping started. Now, the only thing about those long dicks is that they can go kinda far down ya throat if your not careful. They also can cause that gag reflex to trigger, unless you happen to be a professional dick sucker; which I’m starting to learn quite a few people are, both and women. LOL

Also, and this is all person dependent, if you like to catch the protein in your mouth you have a better chance of it going down your throat and swallowing it from one of those long dicks. Now this is not to say that the fat dick won’t pose the same issue, but the longer the dick, the less farther the nut has to travel when it comes out to hit the back of your throat. Another benefit of a long dick is that it usually doesn’t hurt has bad when it’s going inside you and if they know how to stroke you right, my God can it give you one hell of an orgasm. Those long dicks have a tendency to be able to hit ya G-spot and send you to a very wild place.

A fat dick poses a whole other set of things. It usually requires you to open your mouth a lot wider and makes your jaws hurt more.. To suck those types of dicks you really need to know what it is your doing. If you don’t. you run the risk of skinning the dude and that could lead to a bad site. Now when you suck the fat dick, you usually get to prepare yourself a little more and you have time to decide if you wanna catch and swallow, catch and spit or just pull off before the eruption begins. 

I’ve also learned that the fat dicks have a lot of juice stored inside, so if you’re going to catch be ready to have your mouth filled with a lot of protein. In addition to that, when you let that fat dick attempt to enter inside you, the amount of lube needed is significantly increased, because you gotta open wide and that’s not always an easy task. Most times too, the fat dick won’t hit your G-spot, but it will surely hit the spot and the nutt can be just as pleasing for you when you have a fat dick beating it up.

So just imagine if you combine the two. A long, fat dick stroking you deep and opening you wide. My goodness what a cloud you would be on, if you know how to take it all and adjust. So there you have it, some pro’s and con’s to the two most common types of dicks. Now I wonder America which one do you like the most.. A long dick or a fat one?? Or are you just the freak who likes the combination.. One ole long, fat dick..

Happy dick dream!!

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The Measure of a Man…

The measure of man is not in his clothes, his masculinity, his skin tone or his possessions. The real measure of a man is in his character. For just because you have a lot of things, or you dress a certain way, or you have a particular personality it doesn’t mean shit in the real classification of being a man. I think we have gotten so trained and convinced that in order to be a real man you must have the freshest clothes all the time, and you must have the finest cars, homes, and be wealthy, and you have you to be overly tough and you must act like the stereotype of your skin tone.

In truth, a man a really that guy who takes care of home; he has no problem paying all of his bills, takes the time to learn himself and establish some kind of legacy for himself. Whether he be gay or straight, he has a presence when he walks in a room. It can be the man who is quiet, yet impactful, or it can be the extrovert who knows how to command the room. A man is one who if he has kids, takes the responsibility of raising that child or children. Instilling the lessons of manhood and allowing that child to feel cared for and protected. It is the man who shows his daughter the qualities she ought to look for instead of showing her who not to go after. It is a man who teaches his son how to act, how to treat people, and respect men and women alike. 

It does not matter whether your dick is going in a woman or inside of another man, the measure of you as a man is not determined by that. It don’t matter if you’re a light skin pretty boy or a chocolate blue collar worker, the measure of who you are is not determined by that. So take a little time to consider the what qualifications you use to determine what a man is.. Because for me masc, fem, tall, short, dark, light, rich, middle class none of things can really measure the trueness of being called a man..

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Take Me to The King

Let the church say Amen.. and let the church say Amen again.. I am one who is very quick to point out that I a religious man, who is more spiritual however than religious. I do not believe in going around toting a bible, nor do I go out of my way to speak about the word or demonize people for things they’ve done. I identify myself a Southern Baptist, straight out of the African American church. 

I will be the first to admit that being an openly gay man in the Black Church has not been nor is easy. You see for whatever reason, Black people think that if your sin is being Gay, then somehow you are more damned to hell that the one who cheats on their spouse, or have a child out of wedlock. The bible toting Christian elite think that you must do everything by the book and if you don’t well then you’re not equal. See they have to sit in the pew’s every Sunday and talk about the folks in the church and then make sure once they leave the church for the day that they are ready to gossip about what they think they know or what they saw that day.

I don’t particularly care for the religious zelots who feel it is their responsiblity to let you know where you’re fucking up or preaching to you what they think the Bible is saying. There are two fundamental problems with this style of religious teaching. One, more than likely you know nothing about the true meanings and contexts of the text  and two, your really just picking parts of the text to fit your beliefs and the rest you decide to discard and unimportant.

Real religious folks don’t spend their time trying to convert you, or worry about who you’re sleeping with. They don’t spend their time trying to figure out how they can control your life or how to make you feel less than worthy about yourself because you don’t live the “Godly” life that they do. 

The truth is that if you really are a child of God, then you love all of humanity regardless of if they share your faith, beliefs, or lifestyle. If you believe in God, then your actions would reflect that; so instead of damning someone, or spreading church rumors, try to be courteous and empathetic, loving and forgiving, because the truth is the text was meant to a guide, one that should be updated history changes and evolves. 

There are stories in the text that will always withstand the test of time, however, there are passages that are outdated, because they applied to a time of discovery and war and destruction. where entire civilizations were being destroyed. Now we live in a world where change is continuous, acceptance is the norm and civilizations are busting at the seems.

So.. before you go off believing a rouge ministry just trying to tap into your feers. or being sucked into the vacuum of the mega church, thriving on the fiances of its congregation, take some time to figure out what kind of person are you. Do you believe in religion and God? Are you an Athiest ? Are you a condemner or an uplifter? I will submit that the only way to God’s wishes, is to truly act like one of God’s children,.

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Does the Bad Boy Always Win…

You know I’ve always had the question in my mind.. Why is that so many people want the “bad boy” over the “real boy?” It doesn’t seem to matter whether you’re Gay or Straight, there seems to be the perception that if you a “thug” or a “hood nigga” then you will know how handle business in and out of the bedroom better than the real man who just goes about his business. Far too many times I’ve seen the story play out where the chick or the fem gay boy wants that thug who can handle them and have that masculine, aggressive nature. They seem to like the thrill of the challenge of dating a “hardcore” dude, only to find out that most “thugs” and “hood niggas” really aren’t boyfriend, husband material. in most cases what they are, is a good fuck and maybe a decent provider if they got some kinda job, be it legal or illegal.

Most of the times the people dating the bad boy are so willing to overlook the negatives, and the hardships that come with that type of guy. The normal excuse is, hell he just don’t know how to love me cuz he use to that street love. Or my favorite: He’ll come change, cuz this ass/pussy will tame him. Sorry to those of you who still believe that, but as you will find out, if you already haven’t, that hood nigga is getting ass/pussy all the time, because just like you, there are dozens of people who want to get the thug like you. 

Meanwhile, that man who goes about business the right way, and knows how to just take care of things and treat you with the love and respect that you want to be treated with, barely gets the chance before you’re trying to dog him like that thug nigga dogged you. See there is a clear and obvious link to those who date thugs and street boys and their destructive relationships after that affair is over. See the after effects of that relationship with the thug will linger into the future until that person realizes that a real man can be just as rewarding as that thug if you just let him be himself and accept that masculinity takes many different forms.

So word to the wise for all of you who get a wet pussy or ass when you see that sexy thug walkin’ the streets, if you want get you a taste go ahead and let him dick you down. Hell let him pay some bills if you want, but don’t think that you gone get him to go from hood nigga to a house nigga just by laying in bed and in you ladies cases having his baby.

#good guys are just as good.

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Skin vs Latex

It’s the conversation that many have had, and yet so many like to avoid. or lie about..HAHA.. How you really get down in your bedroom? Do you like to feel that natural feeling of whichever hole you’re in, or do you always take the safe approach and make sure you or your partner is strapped up?

I’d like to think that most everyone has at least experienced that natural sex once in their lives, and the reality is most people have done it multiple times. There is a greater sense of pleasure and enjoyment to getting inside of someone without being covered. And yes I know there are all kinds of dangers that you have to be aware of. STD’s, HIV and so on, but let’s be honest, who doesn’t enjoy a freaky good time. For the heterosexual world, you have to worry about ya dude getting you pregnant and the decisions that have to be made surrounding that. For the LGBT community, and most specifically men, you have to worry about HIV and the life change that comes along with that.

Now I will never pretend like those issues are not important because they are all life changing events, but I will be honest and say there is nothing like getting inside a nice tight, wet booty, or for that matter a warm, moist twat either. Latex can give you a very safe and pleasing experience too because hey, you can nutt and not worry about having to pull out and also you can usually beat it up a little longer too, because those juices aren’t touching the dick like it is skin to skin.

But I want someone to honestly tell me that they don’t enjoy beating up when they can feel it all. When the wetness is all over ya dick, when you can look down and see it shining from the juices of the person your inside. Graphic or not, blunt or not, these are the facts and also why I think so many like to get it in skin to skin..

So just sit and think about how u like it.. and how you do it..? What is your choice..skin or latex?

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American Ignorance

I’ve sat and talked with people and I’ve listened to the comments made regarding the Ebola outbreak in Africa, that has the potential to spread. I understand the concern because, hell, who wants to have their eyes bleeding or constant vomiting or the final plunge death. But I have to say I have been really disappointed in the lack of education, research and compassion that some of exhibited towards the illness and the Americans who have risked their lives to help contain, and hopefully cure this deadly virus. 

I’ve had a couple convos where folks have said: “why are they bringing those people infected back to the U.S?” “Situations like this always end badly, there’s always some kind of accident.” And to that end, while I understand the fear and discomfort of having two of the patients brought here to Atlanta. GA, I have to say where is your empathy for these folks. To say, oh well, let them stay and die is so un-American and unempathetic. We are a county that does not leave our soldiers on the battlefield when we exit a country from war, so why would we leave our brave Dr’s and nurses on the battlefield of this health war. I’m proud that our government decided to bring our folks back where they can get the best treatment possible. And not only that, where we can examine them and this virus to find, develop and administer the cure to them and others across the globe, so we can eradicate this virus.

If every time there was a outbreak, we just let people die and not try to health, cure and understand, where do you think our society would be in comparison to where it is now with the medical advances we’ve made. Sometimes, for the good of the whole you have to take risk; calculated and measured, precise yet daring. Because it is with these risks that we find cures, make miracles happen and continue to be the America that all of us have known and to a large extent loved.

Ebola can’t be gotten from walking in the room with an infected patient. If you did the research you would know, it is caught from an exchange of fluids. Yes that means sweat, saliva, blood, sexual fluids. That is how it is passed from person to person. So let’s all take a breath and let the medical geniuses do what they do best.. Find a way to kill this shit. American Pride

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Dirty vs Clean

Soo I’ve often wondered why it is that soo many men like to have sex with a guy who doesn’t prepare for the nights activities..LOL.. In an effort to try and keep it from being too descriptive, if you don’t what that means, ask someone who’s gay and they will surely tell you..HAHA.. See I have a very good appreciation for the random, spontaneous, passionate sexual acts that happen between lovers; yet, where I struggle, is when there is a plan or an intent on the part of the bottom to get plunged and they don’t prepare like they know they should. 

You see, I understand if you’re a novice and you’re  not really sure how much prep time you need, or the accidental thought that you did prep enough only to realize once the dick got inside that you really didn’t do a good enough job. The reality is, at one time or another, it has happened to anyone who has been a bottom. It is a skill that you have to learn how to master, but it definitely is one that I think is taken for granted far too often. Please understand even if you are in a relationship and you have that moment of spontaneous passion that does not give you a pass to not be prepared going forward. And don’t use the excuse that you were drunk or high to justify your inability to get that hole nice and fresh and clean. 

Ohh and if you get past say 18 or 19 and you don’t know how to clean yourself properly, I suggest finding a lifetime bottom that doesn’t mind schooling you on the need to clean, and how to correctly to do it. But, i think that sometimes the need to be clean gets lost because there is now this fascination to want to beat that booty dirty.. which to me is the most sickening thing you could do. For one it creates one hell of a mess, both for the top and the bottom, and for two, that smell lingers in your house no matter how many candles you light or how much air freshener you spray. 

So fellas please while I know the urge exists, and your ass can get hott and for you tops your dicks are hard and heavy, allow ya dude to be fresh and clean, the experience is soo much more enjoyable and the smell will just be that great sex smell; you know, the one that usually lets know you somebody done put in some work and if the dick is right, somebody’s ass is a bit sore.

Enemas are cheap and found everywhere these day. For two dollars you have all you need to be able to keep a fresh, clean booty. If you choose to use an alternative method, ,and there are a few, just make sure you know how do it to satisfaction.

Happy Ass hunting!! 🙂 How do you like it.. clean or kinda raunchy..??