It is often said that violence begets violence and I am a big believer in that. In any type of real relationship no matter how much you argue and have disagreements it should never culminate in ya hands being balled up and fists being swung. No weapons should be used, no hair should be pulled, no kicks should be fly. I hate the fact that in the Gay community soo many women and men allow themselves to be victims of domestic abuse and justify the actions as acts of love or proclaiming that the person must care for them because that violence is some how a simblence of affection.

I think its stupid and it’s a state of being imprisoned in a mentality that pain is love. I do believe that there is an element of lack of self worth that allows the person to stay in a violent relationship. There could also be elements of fear and the reality that the person doesn’t feel like they have no where to go, so they feel forced to stay in the situation until they can do better. Even if you’re fighting back and the both of you wind up with battle scars, does that in any way mean that love is any more real or strong?

I truly believe that once a fist gets thrown and other forms of violence occurs it will never get better, it will only get worse. What happens when they people get more enraged and instead of throwing hands, someone picks up a weapon? A knife, a bottle, and of all things a gun.. For as much as I’m in favor of play wrestling and slightly aggressive behavior in the bedroom to make the sex a lot more interesting and passionate, there absolutely is no room whatsoever for someone to think that they can put their hands on me and I accept it.

I can speak on this from a position of first hand knowledge. I have been in a physically violent relationship and I know how hard it can be to get out at times and how easy it is to trick the mind to justify the actions by any means you choose. Having said that, I also know that when you get tired of the fighting and you feel yourself pushed to the edge where you contemplate killing the other person, that is definitely when it’s time to go.

You should never allow yourself to feel so low as to stay in any situation where your safety is in jeopardy; because I promise it’s not love. Love might make a nigga yell, or push you away, but it won’t make them throw their hands at you in any harmful way. 

#No violence zone…