Ahhh another favorite of mines to talk about and discuss. The ability of someone to say I Love You and do you really know what it means when you say it.I don’t know if there is something that more people disagree on is how important it is tell the one you with I Love You. And then the other big debate is when should say it? Is there a certain length of time before it becomes appropriate? Is there a certain number of obstacles and challenges you’ve been through together before saying those words would be acceptable.

I guess it also depends on the context in which the words are said because in reality we have different types of love for different groups of people. Folks that are your very dear friends and family you love them too but its not the same kind of love and you probably can say it with less thought, although I would submit that you need to be fairly cautious of when you say that to friends, more so than family, because you need to make sure that that friend really does deserve the right to have your love in that way.

The real meat in this discussion is when is too soon to tell the one your with that you love them? I’ve heard some folks say that it’s not about how much time that passes, but more about what situations happen during the time that allows you to say I love you. Is there such a thing as falling in love too quickly and you really wanting to be loved so badly that you will lower the bar for being in love enough to tell the person you love them. On the flip side of the coin, if you’re the person who tends to take a long time to let those words come out why is it? Have you been hurt in your past for uttering those words too soon? Has someone taken advantage of the fact that they know you love them and exploit it to their benefit? Or could it possibly be that you just truly have a firm understanding for what it means to tell someone you in a relationship with that you love them and you don’t want to play around with those words and its meaning.

To tell your lover that you love them and to mean it, means that you are ready to make the necessary sacrifices in your relationship to make two lives merge into one. You are willing to stand by that person when they’re sitting on top of the world and when they’ve fallen to the bottom if it happens. It means that you are willing to take care of them when they sick and not run to the streets to find some dick, ass or pussy to fuck while they recover. It means that if they’re grinding to make life easier for the two of you and you are fortunate to not have to work, that you are pulling your weight around the house to make sure when they come home they’re hard efforts are appreciated.

See to say I Love You is more than just so you can fuck the night away or pull the strings of emotion of a person. It is actually the words that activate the process to work towards forever and to give yourself to your partner and them give themselves to you.

#Does love always hurt? #Real love don’t bring pain, just challenges…